Christine WongFounder, Zenshin Collective Pte Ltd · Trauma Informed Coach for Couple relationships, Careers and Business

Relationship Blindspots: "I have to prioritise my partner and sacrifice my own needs"

3 Nov 2022 · 1 min

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In this short dialogue excerpt from Christine Wong's YouTube video on relationship blindspots, one partner repeatedly asks the other to take their son to an activity while they claim to need to golf with a potential client. The conversation reveals a pattern of broken promises to the child, with the partner citing financial pressure and career opportunities as justification. The other partner expresses frustration over repeated cancellations, highlighting resentment and the emotional toll of consistently sacrificing family commitments for work. The exchange underscores a common blindspot where individuals prioritize a partner’s or personal career needs at the expense of their own or their child’s well‑being, leading to guilt, dependency, and relational tension.

Dear.
What?
Tomorrow, can you bring our boy out to somewhere he wants to go?
Ah, why? I thought you're bringing him out, you promised so long ago already.
Yeah, I know, but tomorrow I need to play golf with a potential client. Please lah, I know I can always count on you.
Again? You did the very same thing the last time. And two weeks ago, and two months ago. Almost every other month there's something you cannot make it. You know, you promise your son to go fishing. Eh, you promise him every single time. Eh, every single time you break your promise. Eh, what?
Hey, I've got a very big deal coming in. You know, money. Who's gonna support everyone in the family?
Then how? I have hiding my friends already.
Hey, already cancel lah.
Okay lah, okay lah, okay lah. I bring you out lah.
Thanks, Dia.