Robert Glover says the number one thing to improve your life and relationships is having strong same-sex friendships. Men especially need support from other men, not just from their partners. After a lonely period in Mexico, he built a network of about 40 male friends, which he credits with fixing his marriages, finances, and work.
Wherever you're struggling in life, wherever you're stuck, wherever you're unhappy, can be attributed to one issue, a lack of good men in your life. Couple would walk in my office and I would tell both the man and the woman. I said, the best thing you guys can do for your relationship is each of you have good same sex friends. And I've been telling guys for years, we go seeking love in all the wrong places. The feminine is the seeker of love. And when we go looking to women to love us, we're actually looking for somebody who's wanting to be loved. Six, seven years ago, I'd gotten into a new marriage. I was living in Mexico. I was lonely, I was isolated. I could count one and a half men as good friends. And I went looking and I found a coach. I now know I could contact 40 guys. If I reached out to any one of these guys and said, I need you help, they'd get on an airplane and fly down here. My life in every way has changed since I built that foundation of good men. My marriages have improved my finances, my work.
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