10 Things Men Have To STOP Doing To Be More Attractive, Confident & Self-Led

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Guys, welcome back to the Man Talk Show. Connor Beaton here today we're going to talk a little bit about self leadership and the 10 things that you as a man can stop doing immediately that will help you to be more attractive, more confident, and in my terms, more self led. Now, I love this concept of self leadership. It's something that I've been talking about with the men that I've worked with for a decade. It's something that I've been advocating for because for me in my journey, the reason why my life went astray was because I lacked self leadership. I didn't have a good sense of internal direction. I didn't have good impulse control. I couldn't say no to myself. I didn't know when to say yes. And just in general, I lacked the skills and the tools to actually lead myself towards the things that I wanted in life. I've had to battle that version of me for a very, very long time. And sometimes in life he's won out more and. But most of the time I win out. It's like a battle of attrition. But it's something that I see so many men making excuses for not being in shape and it's not okay, right? When you start to muster up the determination and the drive to say, I am no longer going to make excuses for not working out. I'm no longer going to make excuses for not being in exceptional shape. Shape, right? I'm 40 and I am in the best shape of my life that I have ever been right now. And it's taken a good amount of dedication. But I can tell you that my wife loves it. I can tell you that I feel much more confident in my body and I can tell you that I feel much more autonomous. I have a deeper sense of authority within myself because that's how I start my day almost every single day, without question. It's just something that I do. So that's number one, stop making excuses for not being in good shape and for not working out. It will save your life in many, many ways. Number two is stop giving women free attention on social media. I see you guys. I get the comments, right? I created a video making a joke about dudes watching pole vaulting or women's volleyball on here. And the comment section was like, hilarious. I think it was on my Desexualizing My Brain video. And the comment section was hilarious because so many of you guys. And this isn't to like shame you, it's just to say, like, stop doing that bs, right? But so many of you guys find ways of wasting your time giving women free attention on social media. So that's number two. Number three is stop comparing yourself to other men. Okay? It's a very interesting thing because I think women talk a lot about how they compare themselves to other women and they compare their looks and what they're wearing to other women. And what I've noticed that with guys there is usually some type of status comparison, financial or success oriented comparison, like oh, you know, he, I think he's making that much money or he's wearing that watch or driving that car and like I'm not even close to being there yet or I really want to be there and I'm just not. And so there's a comparison on that front. I've also noticed that for some men there's this interesting comparison that happens where you can compare another man's pain or trauma or challenges or obstacles to your own as a means of not having to deal with your own. The next thing is to stop believing that you are broken or that there is something fundamentally wrong with you. I got caught in this for a very long time. I really fundamentally believed that I was broken. And unfortunately what that did was a number of things. Number one, if you are a man who fundamentally believes that he is broken, you are going to attract a woman who either agrees with you or believes that about herself. I'm going to say that again. If you are a man who fundamentally believes that he is broken, you are going to attract a woman who either agrees with you and thinks that she can save you, or sees you as that broken version that she's always pitying you, or she believes that about herself as well. And so it's never a recipe for a great reciprocal long term relationship. Take the one thing and execute on that. So if you're watching this on YouTube, don't forget to subscribe by the way, but comment below and let me know which one really stood out to you, which one you're going to commit to. And don't forget to man it forward. Share this video with somebody that you know could use it or would enjoy it. And until next week, Connor Beaton signing off. Be well.