3 Things That Will Change Your Relationship With Women in Brief

Connor Beaton here. And today, I'm gonna be sharing with you the 3 things that you should look out for to find the ideal woman. Now, this is actually not about her, it is about you. I am going to share one tip about what you can look for in a woman. But the 3 things about finding an ideal woman is more about you and what you can do to attract that person. One of the things that can help you more quickly, more efficiently find the right partner, find the right woman to do life with is number 1, stop worshiping sex. I know this is sort of counterintuitive, but a man who is sexually disciplined has a lot more leadership and influence in a relationship. And I say this as somebody who had very little sexual discipline in early on in life. Men who worship the living crap out of sex. Like, the sex was just on a pedestal, right? The P was on a pedestal, and you know what the P is for. The P is on a— was on a pedestal for a very long time. However, if you are worshiping sex, what happens for you as a man is that it will skew your decision-making process, number one. Number two, it can give that person that you're dating and give a woman means in which to manipulate you because you as a man are so much more easily manipulatable and coercible if you are chasing sex. If that is the thing that you are after in a fundamental way, that makes you susceptible to a whole bunch of— I was going to say fuckery, but we'll just leave that there. Fuckery. And number 3 is that it can turn— if you get into a relationship and what you're really worshiping is sex, it can turn sex into a bargaining tool in the relationship and create all types of power struggles. If you are just worshiping sex, what happen is that for a woman on the other side of that, it can feel like this intense pressure, like all you're looking for from me is just sex and I'm just an object for you to have sex with. But what a lot of women want to know when they are in relationship with a man is, I don't want to be able to manipulate this man on a consistent basis. I do not want to be able to manipulate him. Women lose respect for us as men when they can manipulate us. And so a lot of women will get into a relationship with a man and they'll test those types of of things, not even consciously. It's not like they're trying to manipulate you. That's some narrative out there by a bunch of guys who have been hurt by women and haven't recovered from it. There's a boundary. There is me setting a precedence of, "No, I'm not interested in that." And there's a willingness for me to disappoint her in order to stay true to myself. And this is at the crux on what I'm talking about. Do you have the self-esteem to disappoint the person that you are dating or with in order to stay true to yourself. And a really great, healthy, functional relationship, that's at the essence and the core of it. And it's really about two people navigating through that experience, right? So that's number 2. Number 3, this is a tough one, but being at the right place in your life. Being at the right place in your life is such a valuable piece of the equation. I like this notion, and I'm not really exactly too sure where I heard it from, but it's not mine. This notion that men don't find the right woman, men get into the right period of their life, and then they find the woman. And I found that to be true for a lot of guys. And so I think for you as a man, you have to be very conscious about what period and what phase you're at in your life. Because for a lot of— and this is what a lot of women ask me— is like, when is a man willing to commit? When will a man commit? And what I usually say is, when he feels like he's made it into a place in his life where he's secure and stable enough and he's built something of substance, that's usually when the door opens for a deeper level of commitment within a relationship. So those are the 3 things that can really support you in shifting, changing some of the challenges and problems that you're facing in your relationship and allowing you to find the right partner at the right time. Leave your comments below. Let me know what you thought of this video. What would you add in? What did you agree with? Disagree with? What did I miss commenting on? And as always, until next week, Connor Beaton signing off.