Connor Beaton (speaker) describes five steps he used to "unfck" his life. In this excerpt he confesses he was a chronic liar, explains that he replaced addictive or avoidant coping behaviours (porn, weed, booze, doomscrolling, sexting) with generative habits (yoga, breathwork, meditation, working out, journaling), and highlights improved nervous-system regulation/impulse control as a central change that enabled better choices.
Five steps that I used to un my life. I stopped lying. I was a chronic liar. I did I needed to do or I lacked the motivation to do the going to the gym, buying healthier groceries, keeping track of my finances. I shifted my coping mechanisms to generative habits. The porn, the weed, the booze, doom scrolling through social media, sexting people that I knew I didn't want to date that I knew weren't good for me. I moved all those coping mechanisms to generative habits. Yoga, breathwork, meditation, working out, journaling. I just did more that I loved. Honestly, the amount of people who are doing so much stuff that they hate on a daily basis and so little things that they actually enjoy is way too high. I learned to regulate my nervous system AKA I got better impulse control. This is probably the biggest one in the list. A lot of the challenges that I had before were there because I was driven by my impulses.
How to Raise Strong, Unshakable Boys in Today's Culture, with Dr. Shefali Tsabary
