7 Masculine Principles Most Men Have Forgotten in Brief

Welcome back to The Man Talk Show. I am Connor Beaton, and today we're going to be talking about the 7 masculine principles that most men have forgotten. The 7 masculine principles that most men have forgotten. And this is going to be an amalgamation of philosophy and myth and initiation. And so I've pulled together 7 principles that I think when I look out at, at our culture at our masculine culture, at our world today, our society, that these are kind of the 7 pillars that I think most men are struggling with. So number 1 is learn to love and embrace the unknown or the uncertain. Learn to love and embrace the unknown or the uncertain. Joseph Campbell said, "The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek." The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek. And so in this quote, you can kind of hear The treasure is in the unknown. So number 2, principle number 2 is embrace discomfort. And Marcus Aurelius said, if you are distressed by anything external, if you're distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it, right? To your estimate of it. And so this embracing discomfort is mostly about you understanding how you respond internally to things that you don't like. And here's what I really want you to get. I wish every— I like, maybe I'll make a t-shirt from this, but really, discomfort is not the enemy, okay? Discomfort is not the enemy. It is the raw material of growth. Discomfort is the raw material of growth. So if you want to grow in any way, financially, physically, psychologically, emotionally, sexually, spiritually, you have to get uncomfortable. It is a prerequisite for any type of change or transformation. Number 3 is take responsibility and ownership almost to a degree that feels uncomfortable. Take responsibility and ownership almost to a degree that feels uncomfortable. This was really hard for me for a long time. And there's 2 parts of this that I want to talk about. The one part is take responsibility for your own shit and your own actions, right? Take responsibility when you've screwed up, when you've failed, when you've made a mistake, when you forgot something, take responsibility and own those things. But the other part of this that I do not see a lot of people talking about that is so damn important is take responsibility for things that you give a shit about. This is where you will start to find meaning and purpose. Meaning and purpose reside, and there's many different parts that play into it, but one of the parts is that you take responsibility for something that you actually care about. Number 4, build a brotherhood and honor your people. Another way to say this is build your brotherhood and don't talk shit about people in your inner circle. I see way too many men that talk shit about the men that are in their life. They talk about them behind their back. They don't clear out what they need to say. And it starts to erode the trust in relationships. Part of building your brotherhood is that you are going to have to face some level of confrontation with other men. You are going to have to get uncomfortable with saying, "I didn't like that you did that," or, "I don't really like this part of, you know, this part bothers me about you," or whatever it is. And as you build really robust brotherhoods, you can not only rely on those men and trust those men, but you can clear things with them. You can start to see who you are through the life in the eyes of another person. This is where Aristotle said a friend is another self. Number 5 is have dominion over your impulses. Have dominion over your impulse. And again, Aristotle said freedom is the, is the power to control ourselves. Freedom is the power to control ourselves. So we have to begin to build our impulse control and do it systematically because dominion means mastering your desires, having some dominion over yourself, having leadership within yourself. It's not about denying your desires, but placing them in service of something higher. Number 6. 2 more. Become emotionally sovereign. Become emotionally sovereign. So, this is something that I wrote about in my book, Men's Work. There's links to that in the description. But I talked about building emotional sovereignty. And so, emotional sovereignty for me is your ability to connect to your own emotions, maintain them, process them, take responsibility for them without without being constantly disrupted and charged because of other people, because of external circumstances. So this is about taking responsibility for your own emotions, not suppressing them. This is what most men do. The majority of men think that they've become emotionally sovereign because they've numbed themselves out for 2 decades. And number 7, I'm gonna put this in here, is honor the feminine without resentment. Or pedestaling. Honor the feminine without resentment or pedestaling. Dada, David Dada, many of you might know from Way of the Superior Man, said the masculine grows by challenge, but the feminine grows by praise. So we honor the feminine, we praise the feminine, but we do not allow ourselves to become resentful or to pedestal them. So thank you so much for tuning in. If there's anything that you want to add, definitely comment below. I'd love to hear your thoughts on what's one principle that you think many men have forgotten. Till next week, Connor Beaton signing off.