A short conversational piece featuring Connor Beaton and another speaker discussing the origins of male jealousy in relationships and practical advice. The speaker argues that obsessing over partner details intensifies jealousy; instead, redirect that energy toward self-improvement, healing, and becoming 'self-competitive.'
What do you say to the men that whether they've been betrayed or not, that have just sort of rampant jealousy going on? Where does that stem from?
First thing I want to say is you're going to think you want to know everything that your partner did. I want you to trust me. You do not want to know. You do not need to know because those details actually just make it worse. And those details will actually intensify that sense of jealousy and that competitiveness. Here's the thing I learned on my journey of jealousy was that energy was misplaced. We compare ourselves keeping up with the Joneses if you will. And so the jealousy and the competitiveness, it doesn't help win the person back. It doesn't help you heal. It doesn't help you get clarity. Proving that you're superior. Well, if you are superior with your partner of left to begin with, I mean instead I say take that energy and look at what needs to change. Where do I need to grow? Where do I need to heal? Like be self competitive I guess you could say.
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