YouTube interview excerpt (Connor Beaton) addressing men who resist feeling emotions. The speaker argues presence with emotions is essential to personal power and advises creating an emotional 'container'—knowing and naming feelings (anger, sadness, fear, excitement) rather than repressing them or letting them overwhelm you.
Advice for men who actively resist their emotion. Right. The guys that are like, if I let them affect me or if I let myself be affected, then I'm weak, I'll collapse, I'll lose my stability. How would you advise men who have that innate sense of, I don't want to feel what I'm actually feeling?
If you're not present with your emotions, you're not present. And presence is the most powerful quality that you can develop as a human being. And so if you want to be as powerful as you can be, you must learn to be present with your emotions. That doesn't mean allowing your emotions to overtake you or overcome you. I think a lot of men think that, oh, I just have to let everything be expressed. No, you want to create a container for your emotions. And most men, that's why they repress them. They don't have a container for their emotions, or they feel shame about them or they're going to take them out of control, and they don't like the feeling of being out of control. But you have to know what you're feeling at all times, right? And it's like, it's really simple. I'm angry, I'm sad, I'm afraid, or I'm excited, happy.
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