Connor Beaton walks men through identifying what their fathers didn't give them—consistency, patience, validation, boundaries—then building those qualities in themselves. The point isn't blame. It's filling the gap by practicing these skills in your relationships now.
set out on a journey to become the father that you needed. So the question you wanna write down is, what did I need from my father that he couldn't or didn't give me? And again, this isn't about shaming him or blaming him. It's about specifically identifying what was it that you needed that you as a man can begin to give yourself now. Did you need consistency? Did you need patience? Did you need to be seen? Did you need to be told, "I'm so proud of you right now"? Is you need him to recognize you and validate you. Once you identify that, then you have a path forward for the exact skills that you need to create. Maybe what you needed from your dad was to watch him stand up to your mom if you had the spineless dad, right? To be able to set a boundary in the family. And so maybe that is an action that you can take within your own relationship. Whatever it is, start to identify, here are the core things I really needed from my dad. Those are the things that you need to develop within yourself.
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