A short YouTube talk by Connor Beaton arguing that trauma removes a person’s choice, and that healing requires actively choosing to face and feel the difficult emotions tied to the trauma. The speaker frames healing as a reclamation of agency: deciding to enter the hardship and feel what’s been carried.
When we experience trauma, our choice is taken. It's ripped from us. It's very, very common. Whether it's a car accident or abuse or whatever it is, it's often that we are put in a powerless position. We do not have choice. And what I'm saying to you is that you have to be the one to choose to go into what you're feeling, because part of your healing needs to be about you choosing to enter into a really hard experience. You went through a really hard experience. Sounds like repeatedly, not by choice. Part of the healing of our trauma is we choose to go into the real hardship of what we've been carrying around by our choice. And that's the reclamation, that's the healing of the trauma. I'm choosing to face this, I'm choosing to feel this. I am choosing to deal with this.
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