Connor Beaton explores how parents shape your inner voice and the self-talk that follows you into adulthood. A mother's anger can train you toward harsh self-criticism, but therapy shows you can retrain it through self-compassion and reframing failure as something you've survived before.
That kind of compassion and love in a moment where we probably would feel like we deserve to be scolded or shamed or punished in some capacity, and then to be met with an embrace and acceptance. That's a gift of dad, man. Gift of the Father. Both in a spiritual, religious sense, but also a very real human sense. What it means for you, what does it mean to father yourself?
It is the training of the inner voice. My mom, she was very young when she had me, so she had a lot of anger issues. She didn't know at the time, but she was training me how to talk to myself. I've had to read, define what that language is to myself. And that was first made up with the most positive person I know, which is my therapist. So having a therapist has been super helpful because he would ask me questions like, hey, you're very patient with your children, but you're not very patient with yourself. And then, like, we'd start asking even more questions that I would really start to think about. And he goes, I just feel like I'm not gonna make it. I'm gonna fail. He's like, well, have you failed before? I'm like, yeah. He's like, okay, but what did you do after that? Gotta try it again.
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