A short spoken piece by Connor Beaton advising listeners to firmly maintain what they know to be true in conversations, refuse to be swayed by false claims, and set clear boundaries and non-negotiables in relationships (example: using a shared calendar that only contains events both partners agreed to).
Hold to what you know to be true. If you're not really too sure already, you're probably best off to let it go. But if you know for sure that a conversation went a specific way or that they agreed to something that they're trying to get out of right now, hold the line of truth. Do not let yourself question whether or not that's true. You can simply say, you know what? I fundamentally know that what you're saying is not true, and I'm actually not going to allow you to try and convince me of otherwise. So if you're ready to have a conversation, and when you're ready to have a conversation from a place of truth and reality, I'm here to have that conversation with you. But until then, we're not going to engage with this. We're not going to engage with the bs. The next thing is having very clear boundaries around some of these things. You can also have some non negotiables. One of the things that I've had couples do is when they agree to something, they have a shared calendar. And that thing goes on the shared calendar. And it only goes on the shared calendar when both people have agreed to the date, to the event, to the experience.
How to Raise Strong, Unshakable Boys in Today's Culture, with Dr. Shefali Tsabary
