Connor Beaton offers practical advice for men who perceive they have a high sex drive. He outlines four core strategies: date partners with similar sex drives, build calming routines and habits to regulate the nervous system, desexualize one’s thinking (reduce constant sexualization), and cultivate higher-quality male relationships for support and modelling.
Number one is do your best to date people that have a similar sex drive as you. Number two is prioritize routines and habits that will calm and regulate your nervous system. A lot of men that I've worked with over the years, and myself included in the past, was using sex, porn, masturbation, etc. That high sex drive was there because it was a way to calm the nervous system. It was a way to de stress, not feel overwhelmed, not feel anxious, not feel depressed. Next is desexualize your brain. For a lot of us as men, you may have grown up in an environment where sex was everywhere and so your brain has become over sexualized. You are sexualizing people non stop. Last but not least is get more high quality, better men in your life. The men that I've worked with over the years that have this like really high sex drive.
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