Connor Beaton argues men need to practice identifying and sharing their feelings to connect emotionally with partners. He links emotional openness directly to sexual intimacy and says male social norms that discourage vulnerability clash with what women expect from relationships.
If you want your woman to talk to you and you want her to open up sexually, you gotta learn how to do feelings. When you share your feelings, you're connecting to your spouse and you're getting better at identifying and communicating your feelings. That's a skill you can have. But if not, men tend to do what we're good at. And if you're not good at something, you don't do it or you don't get good unless you practice. But if you don't practice, you stay not good. And then, so your wife is not hearing your heart, you're not hearing her heart. Now I've been talking about this for 30 plus years, Connors, in all kinds of settings, okay? As a man, if you're not sharing emotionally and you're not connecting with her emotionally, you're actually going to dry her her up sexually. She's not gonna want to open up her legs because you're not opening up her heart. And emotions is how you get to a woman's heart. How do you feel about that? What else do you feel about that? You know, and men don't have that skill, okay? Because in the men's social society we don't do that. But in the female culture, you know, you have to learn how to identify their feelings and say, hey, well how'd you feel when that happened with your mom or your sister or your friend? Let's talk about it, right? And get into then that turns her on.
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