How You Are Sabotaging Your Own Masculine Energy in Brief

All right, team, welcome back to the Man Talk Show. Maybe like some of the men that are out there, you have been experiencing a lack of direction, a lack of ambition, a lack of motivation. Maybe you felt disconnected from a kind of masculine energy or masculine core inside of you. A kind of fire that can push you and propel you towards your goals, your aims, your desires. Maybe you felt disconnected from that despite all of your best intentions. Today we're gonna be talking about what blocks that masculine energy and core inside of you and how to reconnect to it in a way that's not just about cold showers and lifting heavy weights. Those things can be very, very helpful. Absolutely. I do those things. I love to lift heavy. The modern man trap is the kind of nice guy culture. And this nice guy culture can be a deterrent towards your inner strength. It can a connection towards your inner strength. You have this kind of well intentioned push for you as a man to be highly empathetic. And this can inadvertently lead to a kind of passive behavior in your life, A kind of inability to assert healthy boundaries that you start to over index being nice, being kind, being overly compassionate, being overly accommodating. And it's not even that you're a people pleaser, maybe you sort of fall into that category, but you just start to over index a relentless onslaught of compassion when you start to move into this place of over planning, overthinking without taking action. These are all subtle forms of a kind of self sabotage that will stifle your progress. And this masculine core and energy inside of you is reinforced through action. Masculine core is about pointing towards a target, aiming at a target, and then developing the skill and the willingness to continue to draw the bow, fire the arrow, hit the target, and practice that time and time again until you get closer and closer to the bullseye. So one of the pieces here around this, this procrastination paradox, which by the way, procrastination, it's just a protection mechanism. It's your brain and your body attempting to protect you from some type of failure or embarrassment or some type of unwanted outcome. Sometimes that perceived unwanted outcome is success, it actually is achieving. Because you are so used to non achieving, you're so used to not actually reaching your goal or having the ambition or having the achieving the result. And so sometimes in the beginning, what you actually need to do, and this is what I had to do in the very beginning, I did not have motivation, I did not have ambition, I did not have any of the perceived skills to actually achieve success. And so for me, it was really about small daily repetitions. Small daily repetitions that I would build on. And this is what I've called reclaiming your center. So we have. You have to move into the middle ground. Find the middle path between beating the living crap out of yourself not working, and then letting yourself off the hook entirely also not working. There's a middle ground in there where you can say, okay, I didn't follow through with this today. That's not okay. I'm going to go do it right now. That was the practice that I started to embody. I didn't do this this morning. I just remembered it. I'm going to. I'm going to make myself sit down and do this right now. I'm going to sit down and do the journaling. I'm going to send that email. I'm make that phone call right? So in the moment, reestablishing it as soon as you remember. I'm going to sit down and meditate right now. So comment below, share your thoughts. Thank you so much for diving in today. Until next week, Connor Beaton signing off.