Men often tie their entire self-worth to a single role like quarterback or job title. When that role changes or performance slips, it feels like a personal attack, triggering anxiety and self-doubt. The real work is separating who you are from what you do.
A huge part of your work is about men going through transition, men transitioning their career, men transitioning out of a relationship. That seems to be such a big theme when a man's going through a transition in his life. What are some of the surefire ways to identify that? What do you see men struggling with when they start to go through a transition? What are the pitfalls? What are the traps that we fall into as men?
The root issue in a transition period is identity, and there's some other roots that are right next to it, but identity is the core of it. So the. The reason they get so nervous in a game is because at a deep level, they think that their identity is quarterback. If that's who you are, then any sort of mistake that happens on the field is a direct, not just an attack on your identity. But it also makes you start to question, well, am I worth anything if I have a bad game? What does that mean about my value as a human? I have to work with these guys to separate their title of quarterback with their identity. In other words, who they are as a person.
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