Connor Beaton discusses how dating apps like Tinder expand users' visibility of potential partners, increasing exposure to highly desirable people but also to a wider range of low-quality or problematic individuals. He argues that these platforms make it easier to become jaded because users now see people they would not normally encounter in offline life.
If you're a woman on Tinder, you are going to have access to more men than almost any woman in human history ever. It means that, yeah, you're going to be able to see way more of the eights, nines, and tens, the men that you perceive to be valuable. But it's also probably going to give you insight into all of the men that you would usually not come into contact with because various reasons. And same thing goes for guys, right? 20 years ago, you had to work really hard to gain perspective on the spectrum of women that are out there, the good, bad, and the ugly. It's easier now to get jaded because you have insight into the kind of terrible human beings that are out there. And it's not that those people were never there before, it's just that you didn't see them.
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