Connor Beaton explains why dumping every insecurity on your partner backfires. Women ask for vulnerability, not a constant stream of your grievances. There's a difference between opening up and unloading everything.
She does not mean that she wants constant access to your emotions. She does not mean that she wants constant access to your insecurities or your fears or your grievances or everything that you're pissed off. She doesn't want to become a receptacle for all of your emotional grievances and intensities. And this is what can happen for a lot of men. They finally get asked and get a kind of permission to open up and be vulnerable and express themselves. They open the floodgates of the dam and they just emotionally vomit all over their partner. And it can disrupt the homeostasis of the relationship. It can really alter the dynamic. You as a man, you interpret your woman's words as a legal contract. You think to yourself, if I do what she says, if I just open up and I express and I be more emotional, I be more vulnerable, I'll be loved and she'll be happy. This is incorrect. This almost always leads to all kinds of issues.
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