Connor Beaton advises replacing pornography with meaningful, depth-oriented relationships and practical self-care tools (breathing, work, meditation). He emphasizes redirecting the energy and attention normally given to porn toward calling or hanging out with friends and sharing emotional struggles, noting this need not be sexual.
So instead of turning to porn when you feel lonely, when you feel bored, when you feel angry, when you're anxious, when you're overwhelmed, having other tools to move towards can be good, right? Breath, work, meditation, all the stuff that everybody on the Internet talks about. But the big piece is being able to turn to a meaningful depth oriented relationship, being able to bring that energy and that attention that you would normally be bringing to pornography into some type of a relationship and that doesn't have to be sexual, right? It might be that you're just feeling lonely and you need to go hang out with one of your buddies. It might be that you're just feeling anxious and you need to call up a buddy and say like listen man, I'm just stressed out, I'm overwhelmed. Do you have a couple of minutes to just talk about what's going on in my life? Right? It can be that simple.
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