Connor Beaton explains how to set boundaries with an avoidant partner: state your needs clearly, give them space to retreat when overwhelmed, agree on a structure for time apart, and set a date to check if the relationship can work.
Communicate what's needed in order for the relationship to function and to communicate this in an assertive way in a grounded way but to do so respectfully. What I need is X, Y and Z. Take your space, take a few hours, give them the time and the space that they need which I actually 100% need still to this day. Sometimes I need to be able to go within to take a couple hours to myself to reflect, reflect and be able to bring that back into the relationship. So create a little bit of a structure with your significant other by stating here's what I would love to happen. I want to co create this relationship with you. I want to be able to give you your time and your space when conflict happens, when you feel overwhelmed or overrun and I need to know that you're going to return that is going to give you insight to whether or not things are going to be workable with that really avoidant partner because again.
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