Connor Beaton explains why anxious men fear speaking up for themselves: the fear doesn't fade before you act, it intensifies and feels like danger. The only way out is to speak anyway, while still scared, and let the discomfort teach you that nothing bad happens.
The big thing I want you to know is that you cannot get rid of the fear of prioritizing yourself. You actually have to be afraid and feel the fear as you prioritize yourself. The reality is what a lot of anxious men do, what a lot of nice guys and people pleasers do, is internally there's an agreement of, well, when I stop feeling afraid of asking for what I want, of saying what I need, of prioritizing myself, of having boundaries, maybe when I stop feeling afraid, That's when I'll do it. The fear's not going to go away until you begin to do it. It's gonna feel like death. It's gonna feel like danger. It's gonna feel like a huge threat. It's gonna feel like you might be left or abandoned or neglected by simply saying what it is that you want. That's how it should feel. You have to start to take the action afraid. You have to start to do it scared. You have to take the risk.
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