Connor Beaton explains why men who suppress themselves to avoid their partner's emotions often backfire: women feel resentful and scared when they sense their partner can't handle them. The result is a man who disappears into the relationship, trying to be whoever he thinks she needs.
that when a man is afraid of his woman's emotions, how she feels on the other side of that is bitter, resentful, but ultimately she feels scared. Because if she feels like she can dominate you with her emotions, that she can conquer you with her emotions, she gets upset, you collapse. There is this sort of grief and sadness that a lot of women report because they don't feel like you have the ability and the capacity to contend With her emotions. And for a lot of women, what they'll say and they'll report, her emotions are too much for you. And she can take on a kind of resentment or frustration because it feels like you are not able to stand up to some of her emotions. You adopt and adapt behavior to basically be who you think you need to be in order to never upset her.
How to Raise Strong, Unshakable Boys in Today's Culture, with Dr. Shefali Tsabary
