A short conversational excerpt from a YouTube video where Connor Beaton and another speaker argue that building tolerance to discomfort is essential for success in business, professional life, and dating. They frame comfort and adversity as different ‘medicines’ and emphasize gradually exposing oneself to challenging situations to build capacity (e.g., approaching people, marketing efforts).
I think the men that are successful, both in business, professionally, and dating, are the ones that are willing to build up some tolerance in their own discomfort.
There's a kind of nervous system that has shrunk in terms of the level of sensation we can hold. You know, the real legit masculine thing is just get out there and grind. Comfort is a medicine, too. Comfort and adversity. These are both medicines. And they're not exactly opposites of each other. They're just different parts of the same story. There is such a thing as too many much adversity. You know, there's such things. You just blow your circuits. You're like, okay, I've never approached a woman before, and I'm now gonna go to approach the hottest woman I've ever met. You're probably just gonna get blown out because you're not ready, haven't built the muscle for it. So same in marketing. You know, you start to wrap your head around these things, and you put yourself out there a little bit, and then you find, oh, it's not so bad.
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