A short monologue (YouTube video) arguing that many personal problems — relationship issues, unhappiness, stagnation — stem from lacking good same-sex friends. The speaker (Connor Beaton) recommends cultivating strong same-sex friendships (particularly men supporting men), shares a personal anecdote about isolation after a marriage and how building a network of male friends transformed his relationships, finances, and work.
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Wherever you're struggling in life, wherever you're stuck, wherever you're unhappy, can be attributed to one issue, a lack of good men in your life. Couple would walk in my office and I would tell both the man and the woman. I said, the best thing you guys can do for your relationship is each of you have good same sex friends. And I've been telling guys for years, we go seeking love in all the wrong places. The feminine is the seeker of love. And when we go looking to women to love us, we're actually looking for somebody who's wanting to be loved. Six, seven years ago, I'd gotten into a new marriage. I was living in Mexico. I was lonely, I was isolated. I could count one and a half men as good friends. And I went looking and I found a coach. I now know I could contact 40 guys. If I reached out to any one of these guys and said, I need you help, they'd get on an airplane and fly down here. My life in every way has changed since I built that foundation of good men. My marriages have improved my finances, my work.
