The Paradox Of Dating For Men

Honestly, one of the most frustrating experiences that I see so many men having within modern dating, modern love, modern relationships, is that they've been told for a very long time to be a certain way, to almost be a little bit more feminine in nature, to just be way more open and more vulnerable and more kind, and don't worry about earning. You know, money isn't really a big deal. We just want somebody who's kind, loving, and compassionate. And I get it. I've seen the data. I understand that kindness is one of the most important things that person, pretty much anybody, looks for in a partner. Right. It's like what people want is somebody who's kind to them. We got that check. But the truth and the reality is that while a lot of men have been told that traditional masculine roles aren't important, that traditional masculinity isn't necessarily wanted, when push comes to shove, the men who are chosen are still the men who embody a lot of those more traditionally masculine traits. Right? The guys who are the providers. You know, when you look at research around what women want within a relationship from a man, they still say that they want a man who makes as much or more than them. So I think it's very confusing for a lot of men who are in today's dating world, in today's culture, who have constantly been told those things aren't actually important. But when they get out into the real world and they get outside of the narrative and the story and the theory of what women want from men, what they're confronted with is the reality of what women actually want. So I'm curious to hear your thoughts. Comment below.