A short self-development talk by Connor Beaton advising listeners to identify what they project onto romantic partners (e.g., trust, validation, nurturance) and to cultivate those qualities within themselves to reduce neediness and fear in relationships.
Get really clear on what you are projecting onto women that you date that you fall in love with. What are you afraid of really truly? Are you afraid that a woman will betray you? Are you afraid that you can't trust them? Are you afraid that you're not really worthy of the women that you date and so you need their validation? What have you projected on to your partner? Starting to get very clear on that and then beginning to cultivate those things within your life. Maybe it's artistic expression, maybe it's some of these softer skills that we've been talking about like self compassion or nurturing or whatever it is, but beginning to bring those things and integrate those things into your being so that they are not so heavily required from women in your life. Because when they are so heavily required from women in your life you're not only pressurizing that relationship and creating a neediness but there's a automatic fear that comes along with that.
How to Raise Strong, Unshakable Boys in Today's Culture, with Dr. Shefali Tsabary
