Connor Beaton delivers a first-person monologue exploring the costs and challenges of moving from people-pleasing to putting yourself first. He poses hard questions about confronting others and oneself, describes personal strengths (emotion-reading, selling, desire to speak and connect), and emphasizes that fear remains part of the process — you remain scared until others later label your actions as "brave."
What are some of the things that people are going to have to face when you begin to put yourself first? When you begin to step out of this people pleasing mentality and behavior set, what are you going to have to face? Will you be confronted by. You'll ask yourself this question every day for the rest of your life. I had to ask myself some really hard questions in the last couple weeks. Am I going to do this or am I going to burn it? The thing I really want is to speak. I want to connect more healing. And I realized that this people pleasing tendency still rears its ugly head. Some people are assholes and they have to deal with that their whole lives. Some people are people pleasers and then they have to circumvent that and find workarounds and work with it and it can be really beneficial. By the way, I can read emotions, I can read context. I can sell better than anybody can sell. Like I am incredible. But I think when you really ask yourself what's now, you're going to get scared. And that's going to bring you to the fifth part where you realize that you were never supposed to be unafraid. You will be scared until they call you brave and they will only call you brave when it's over.
How to Raise Strong, Unshakable Boys in Today's Culture, with Dr. Shefali Tsabary
