Connor Beaton presents a short piece of relationship/personal-growth advice: treat internal resistance as a compass indicating what you should move toward. He recommends pressing into resistance—speaking about internal experiences, asking for needs, or pursuing physical closeness—especially within committed, long-term relationships built on trust, while cautioning not to ignore clear warning signs or red flags.
Your resistance is going to be a North Star of sorts. It's going to be your compass. Where you feel resistance is where you need to go. You need to press forward in that direction. So if you feel resistance towards talking about something that you are experiencing internally, if you feel resistant towards asking for a need, asking for something that you want, you need to move in that direction. If you feel resistance towards some type of physical closeness, you need to move in that direction. Now, I'm not saying that you should ignore red flags and ignore warning signs. I'm talking about if you are in a committed relationship, a long term relationship, ideally with somebody that you love and trust, when you feel that resistance, that is probably a good sign that you need to move towards that.
How to Raise Strong, Unshakable Boys in Today's Culture, with Dr. Shefali Tsabary
