Couples fight the same fight over and over because the real issue isn't the surface topic. It's an attachment fear underneath, like "Are you there for me?" or "Am I enough?" Both people get hurt and scared, and how they try to fix it usually makes it worse.
Why do couples have the same fight over and over again? It's never about what they're fighting about. Right underneath the topic of what they're fighting about is this attachment world, this emotional bonding world. And so it doesn't matter what the topic is if you guys love each other. Any topic that touches these Are you there for me? Am I enough for you? How could I be a disappointment? Again? You're going to have a big fight. And it's very common that a couple comes to see me and they're really embarrassed to tell me what they thought about two people that love each other got hurt and scared, and then everything they did and said made things worse. All of that is the basis of why people have the same fight over and over again.
How to Raise Strong, Unshakable Boys in Today's Culture, with Dr. Shefali Tsabary
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