Excerpt from a YouTube video by Connor Beaton arguing that society requires men to continually prove their manhood while women's status as women is assumed; this dynamic causes underappreciated conflicts in workplaces when women expect automatic respect but encounter the male norm of earned respect, leading to shock and alarm.
Society puts pressure on men to prove their value, whereas women's value is more often assumed. What did you mean by that? Well, a man has to prove himself. A girl grows up and she becomes a woman automatically. But a boy grows up, he isn't really a man until he establishes it. And many cultures have different ways that the men are supposed to prove themselves. That being a manhood is. You have to continue earning it. You might not feel like a man anymore, whereas a woman is always a woman. It's been a source of underappreciated conflict even in the workplace, because for a long time, respect was something in the male world. It had to be earned. But the boys were brought up to respect the girls and women automatically. And so the women were used to being entitled to respect. So when the women moved into the men's sphere and started working in the companies and so on, that the men made, the men treated them the same way they treated each other, which was disrespectful. And the women were kind of shocked and alarmed by this.
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