Connor Beaton (speaker/creator) argues that sexually disciplined men become more attractive to women because discipline signals having overcome hardship, demonstrates self-control and resilience, and communicates commitment/security in relationships. He cautions men not to adopt sexual discipline merely to impress women, framing discipline instead as personally challenging work that improves multiple areas of life (focus, nutrition, work, relationship quality).
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Disciplined man, so attractive for women. There's many reasons for it. And you shouldn't become sexually disciplined for women. That would just be, you know, falling into the trap of being the nice guy. There are many, many, many benefits to becoming sexually disciplined yourself as a man, which I will talk about a little bit in this video. But one of the main things, and one of the main outcomes of becoming sexually disciplined is that you become even more attractive to women. But every guy has been in a relationship, sorry for the rant. Every guy's been in a relationship with a woman who sees his social media consumption and maybe sees that he's following women that are very attractive, that maybe feel like a threat to her or are talking to women that are very attractive and they can feel that there's some sexual tension, let's just say, between the two of them, that can feel very threatening or maybe she starts to learn about your porn viewing habits. Whatever it is. Women really are attracted to sexually disciplined men for a few reasons. Number one, they know that for a man to become sexually disciplined, he likely has had to go through some level of hardship. He's likely had to go grapple with and, you know, grab onto the bullhorns of his own sexual impulses. And women know that that is tremendously challenging. And they know that because if you are an attractive woman that's walking around in the world, you are very likely to get leered at and jeered at and, you know, sexual comments made towards how you look and guys, you know, catching guys checking out your ass and that kind of stuff. And so for a lot of women, it's a sign that you as a man have put in a tremendous amount of effort towards reining in a part of yourself, grappling with a part of yourself that is very challenging to get not under control, but to get some control and direction over, right? That you can point it, you can direct it, you can work with it.
You can begin to embody it when necessary, you can call in it when it's needed, right? Women know that, that you've had to do that. And that act is very attractive, right? Because it shows strength, it shows determination, it shows that you've likely had to be very resilient. It shows that you are willing to face hardship, you're willing to do hard shit. And so all of that is wildly attractive. So that's one piece. It's attractive. The second thing is that it shows a good amount of security to, to the commitment, right? If you are an attractive man in any way, shape or form, physically, intellectually, emotionally, sexually, et cetera. Women want to feel safe with you and they want to know that you as the attractive man are giving them the attention and that your attention isn't going out and being dispersed out amongst a whole bunch of other women. And it feels very good for women to be with a man who, who has high status or is a high value man, which gets thrown around a lot on the Internet today. But if you're a great man who clearly has optionality and you are choosing to give your attention to that woman, then that creates a certain level of safety and security. But it also builds attraction because you could be giving your attention, you could be giving your energy, you could be giving your time out into other places and spaces. So it creates attraction through that. But it also creates one of the most important things that women look for within the context of a relationship, which is security. It gives security. And if you can build security in your relationship as a man, it's not only good for her and it's good for the relationship, but you have done something for yourself that is tremendously challenging. So like I said at the very beginning of this, you don't want to become sexually disciplined to attract women. That's not the goal. You don't want to become sexually disciplined to attract a woman. You don't want to become sexually disciplined to try and impress a woman or be like, oh, look what I've done. I've, you know, I, I did this just for you. That's going to create animosity and resentment. You want to develop sexual discipline because it's really fucking hard. And the truth is, is that most men are not sexually disciplined. And most men are spewing their sexual energy on all over the damn place. You know, they're opening up Instagram and it's full of, you know, Instagram models and bikinis or, you know, fitness models working out, bending over, doing squats and shit like that. They're sending their sexual energy to women that they work with. They're sending sexual energy to, you know, porn. And just all the time it's just constantly leaking and oozing out of them. And so because of that, you're not facing the things that are very challenging within you. So if you as a man can start to work on your sexual discipline and you can start to work on reining in some of that energy and actually learning where and when to direct it, how to direct it towards the women that you are dating, that you are with, that you are married to, that can be not only a tremendous gift to the relationship for many reasons. Like I just covered, you are going to feel like you lack discipline, like you lack internal structure, like you lack impulse control. And that is going to, my friends, show up in every part of your life. It's going to show up in every part of your life, and you know it. It's going to show up in how you do work, how you treat your body, how you eat, your nutrition, all of it. So comment below, let me know what your thoughts are. Thanks so much for tuning in. Until next week, this is Connor Beaton signing off.
