YouTube episode (Man Talk Show) in which Connor Beaton explains men’s emotional and psychological fear of women—distinguishing it from physical fear—and traces causes through evolutionary, analytical, and existential psychology. He emphasizes unconscious projections (especially stronger when attraction is high), suppressed feminine aspects in men, and practical steps: identify projections, cultivate internal compassion, and communicate needs rather than offloading them onto partners. The video closes with audience engagement and a call to share.
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Team. Welcome back to the Man Talk Show. Connor Beaton here. And obviously I have a new setup. If you're watching me on YouTube, I have shifted things around a little bit trying to, just trying to get this lined up. So if you're new to the channel, you probably won't know the difference. Let's dive straight in. Today I'll be talking about understanding your fear of women as a man and what to do. So this is one of those Man's guides episodes. I'm going to break down a few concepts. I'm going to go into evolutionary psychology. I'm going to go into analytical psychology, existential psychology. I'm going to talk about how a man's fear of women develops. The majority of men are not physically afraid of women. When most men hear this phrase, some men or all men are, have a fear of women, right? Men are naturally afraid of women. They immediately think, well, I'm not physically afraid of women. So what's this dude talking about? Now? The majority of you are likely not afraid of women in a physical sense. You feel safe around them. You're okay. You know, obviously there are some examples of being in abusive relationships where you as a man have maybe been abused by women. And that happens. And so I don't want to downplay that. But the majority of people, the majority of men are not physically afraid of women. What we are talking about is a type of emotional and psychological and evolutionary fear, a biological fear. So let's start with evolutionary psychology. Evolutionary psychology would say that there's a few different reasons that men are afraid of women. Evolutionary psychology would also talk about selection, preferences. So in dating and in relationships between men and women, women are the ones who really grant access to sexual connection, right? So they're saying goes that women are the gatekeepers of sex. Men are the gatekeepers of marriage or commitment. And so in many ways, women are the one, the ones that choose whether or not you as a man get selected to procreate, to mate, to have just casual fun, you know, fornication. And for a lot of men, what ends up happening is that the, their masculinity, their maleness, their manhood is sort of attached to how successful they can be with women. And it kind of gives you a sense or a test, let's just call it, of where you stand on the hierarchy. And generally speaking, men that are able to get more women or have an easier time with women, it's a signal that they are higher up on the hierarchy of men to women, right? So women are saying These type of men are more desirable, more wanted to me as a woman than. Than these other men. And so for a man, this is the big realm of emotional fear. There's a very deep amount of emotional fear that can show up within this dynamic between him and a woman. And there's one really interesting piece which is that the stronger your attraction is to a woman, the stronger these unconscious projections become. I'm going to say that again. The stronger your attraction is to a woman, the stronger these unconscious projections become. So the more you're attracted to a woman sexually, physically, emotionally, relationally, you're like, yes, I really love this woman. I want to be with this woman. That's when all of these unconscious things are going to get spewed out onto her, even if you don't want to. Right. And I hear this all the time with guys, you know, guys that have been kind of like players, you know, ladies, guy, ladies, men. And all of a sudden they, like, they find this woman that they really want to be with that they really like, that they really love spending time with. And all of a sudden he starts acting super needy. He doesn't really know why. He's just like, not his normal self. He's kind of needy. You know, he's all over the place. He's emotional. He finds himself becoming, like, sappy. And he's like, what is going on? And it's a representation of all of these feminine characteristics that have lived within this man that have been suppressed or repressed in into his unconscious mind, all of a sudden come blasting out into his life. They get, like, geysered out of his unconscious and they oftentimes get projected onto her or they get, you know, spewed up into his consciousness and he has to learn how to deal with them. So what you do is a couple things. Number one, you get really clear on what you are projecting onto women that you date, that you fall in love with. What are you afraid of, really, truly? Are you afraid that a woman will betray you? Are you afraid that you can't trust them? Are you afraid that you're not really worthy of the women that you date and so you need their validation?
Do you lack a sense of internal compassion? This is a big one. I see for a lot of men, they are so harsh in their inner dialogue. And what they've done is they've offloaded any type of compassionate inquiry or compassionate communication onto the women that they're with. So they require that from the woman that they're with because they don't have any type of internal self compassion. So what have you projected on to your partner? Starting to get very clear on that and then beginning to cultivate those things within your life. So share your thoughts below. I'd love to hear from your perspective. What causes men to be afraid of women? What have you found to be helpful? And as always, do not forget to man it forward. Share this episode with somebody in your life that you know will enjoy it and have something to contribute to it. See you next time.
