Connor Beaton argues that men often rely on women to define their identity, a pattern he calls "mother hunger." He says men need to stop seeking external validation and instead build their sense of self from within by confronting who they actually are and what they want.
So you've been looking to women for a long time to tell you who you are, and that's the mother hunger. And when you start to relinquish that and you start to insource— things genuinely matter to me because I have done the hard work to try and figure out who I am— that is maturation. That's part of the maturation process for every single human being. As you start to let go of expecting a woman to tell you who you are and you let go of this hunger inside of you and you start to do the scary of asking yourself the question, okay, I don't know who I am, I don't know what I want, let me go and discover that. That develops resiliency, it develops maturity, and it develops a more coherent sense of self that has been internally constructed and architected. That is what helps you as a man mature and break free. And you have to do it in a way where you do not ask for permission.
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