Anxiety and depression are symptoms of nervous-system dysregulation, not the root cause. Two people experience the same car accident: one recovers quickly, the other becomes sleepless and ruminative. Person B likely had undetected dysregulation all along, but most people quit therapy before addressing it, often for money.
I think one of the things that people kind of get stuck on is that they believe that they're dysregulated because they're depressed or because they feel anxious. How do you distinguish between a symptom and the state of the nervous system underneath it?
Let's consider person A and person B. Person A gets into a minor fender bender. You walk away a little ticked, but you're fine. Person B has that little fender bender exactly the same, and they're a mess. They can't sleep that night. They can't stop thinking about it. They have dreams about it. B is there's a very high probability that they had a nervous system that was already dysregulated, but they didn't know it because typically society doesn't showcase when we have these little symptoms and signs. So person B most likely had this dysregulation to begin with. And sadly, a lot of the times their therapy doesn't continue, usually out of monetary inability.
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