Dating coach Anwar White argues that the 'Black love' movement hurts educated Black women's marriage prospects. He points out Black women are unmarried 70% of the time and says limiting dating to Black men, who marry outside their race at higher rates, shrinks the pool unnecessarily.
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70% (claimed: 'Black women are 70% of the time unmarried.')
13% (speaker's claim: 'if you're focused on just black men, you're only looking at 13% of the male population').
Almost three times as much (speaker's claim: 'dating and marrying outside the race almost three times as much as black women').
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Black love for black women. Specifically educated black women. Now, I know many of you are going to try to fight me in the comments, and that is totally fine. I'm a grown ass man and you are grown ass people, so you get to do whatever the hell you want. But just hear me out for just one second, okay? Why am I talking about this? I'm talking about this because Black women are 70% of the time unmarried. That's almost twice as much as any other race. There's an issue going on here, and a big part of it is a hyper focus on this black love. Why? Well, because if you're focused on just black men, you're only looking at 13% of the male population instead of all of it, which could be 7xing your chance, your probability of finding your guy and finding love. The other reason why I think that it's very hard when you're hyper focusing on black men is because there's. There's this undying loyalty to them. And I get it. Like, they're treated unfairly, and we want to keep the family strong and continue the black race. Girl, any family that you're a part of, any baby that you're going to have is going to be black. So it's going to be a black family. It's going to be a black race. This loyalty that we have, we're going to have to let some of it go. Why? Because these guys aren't loyal to you. They are actually, like, dating and marrying outside the race almost three times as much as black women are. So, no, girl, I want you to get your love and not focus on a guy who isn't even checking for you. Okay? The third thing that I want to offer to you as you think about black love is that it actually plays on your traumas. What I know as a dating coach for black women is that there is significant trauma with the black father. Oftentimes he has either been emotionally absent or physically absent. So oftentimes black women will engage with black men to try to rewrite history, to chase her father's love. I want to let you know that that doesn't work. Actually. That's your work to do to heal within yourself. A black man won't be able to actually heal that void that you might be having. Okay, why am I talking about this? Because I think that black women deserve love. And I want to give them the best opportunity to do so that's why I've become a dating coach for them at the end of the day. So. So if you're interested in learning how to date differently and date better so that you can get your guy, check out my profile and I can definitely help you out with that. Otherwise, I want to wish you well.
