Anwar White says overthinking is really under-feeling. Label your emotions, breathe deeply to calm your nervous system, and let yourself feel through romantic feelings instead of just thinking about them.
FP said. Any advice to not overthink? So I always. When someone says I'm overthinking, I always hear it as I'm under feeling. So actually, even the process of you grounding yourself by labeling your feelings is going to be really important in every situation that you're in. What happens is that a lot of us have been leaning on this so much because it's helped us in life and in our professional careers that we think that it's going to help us romantically. And it actually hurts you. It works against you. You have to feel through this shit, ladies. You can't just, like, think through it. If you think through it, your mind is going to play tricks on you because the chemicals are messing with your brain. Love is a chemical. It messes up how your brain computes and makes decisions. So you can't use your brain in love. You have to use your heart. You have to use your emotions. So label your feelings. Also doing lots of breathing. The funny thing is that us as black people, we really don't actually breathe deeply because our nervous systems are oftentimes at such a high alert that we're actually breathing like this. Like, panting like dogs, girl. So actually deep, like, deeply breathing will help you to allow yourself to sit into your body and calm yourself and your nervous system to allow yourself to check in and figure out, what am I actually feeling right now?
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Dating Pitfalls of the Smart and Successful Woman - Get Your Guy Podcast S1 E2
