A dating coach (Anwar White) addresses Black women concerned about dating non-Black men, defining “black flags” as positive signs to look for in non-Black partners. He lists four main criteria: (1) diverse dating history with a preference for but not exclusivity toward Black women; (2) engagement with Black culture and participation in grooming/hair care; (3) allowing the Black partner to lead conversations about race and honoring her experience; and (4) being outspoken and protective of the partner in public. The clip closes with an invitation to book coaching for help widening one’s dating pool.
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So I get a lot of questions from black women who are scared to date outside of their race. Non black men, specifically white men. So I wanted to come on here and I wanted to talk about the black flags. You've heard of green flags. You've heard of red flags in dating black ladies. I'm going to talk to you about the black flags. What are black flags? Black flags are things that you want to see, see from a non black man to make sure that it's safe for you to date. And here's the thing. I am not trying to kill the black race. I just want you all to date and be with the person that treats you the best. Because at the end of the day, and I get people into relationships every week as a dating coach for black and brown women, it oftentimes is not going to look the way that you want it to look like, but we want to make sure that it feels the way that you want it to feel like. So. So with that said, let's talk about some of these black flags, honey. Number one, you want to make sure that in his past relationships he's dated a variety of different women, but that he prefers black women but doesn't exclusively date black women. That's number one. Number two, you want to make sure that he's engaging in black culture. So you saw in this video, he's holding her hair. But for men that you want to partner with, you want to see, does he watch black shows? Does he actually engage and participate in some of the things that you're doing with your hair? Taking weave out, right, helping you wash it, whatever it may be. Third thing that you want to see when you all are talking about race and you will need to, you want to make sure that he lets you take the lead on that and that he honors and just accepts your experience without challenging it. This is all very important when we are thinking about trying to partner with someone that is non black. And then finally, we want to make sure that he is outspoken and protective when you are out in society. Because at the end of the day, if he is going to be your partner, he is going to not only have to protect himself, protect the relationship, but protect you. Because as a woman of color, you are experiencing so many different things from society and, and part of his job and being your partner is actually helping to protect you from some of those things. So he's going to have to speak up if somebody's not acting right when it comes to you and respecting you. And that's what you need to look out for. I hope this helps. I hope this helps you and inspires you to try something new. And if you need help with widening your net, book a call with me. I.
