Bring Out the Vixen w Natasha

So I just. FYI, I'm not going to introduce you. I'm going to have you introduce yourself because you know exactly kind of what you do. I'm just going to say I have a special guest. I'm going to let her introduce herself, and so that it can be like a mini gag.

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Do you mind? Yes, yes, that's fine.

Yes.

Hello, my loves, and thank you so much for joining me today on the get your guy coaching podcast. I have a very special guest with me today. Now, we are going to be talking about that thing, that thing, S E X. We're going to be talking about intimacy. We're going to be talking about all of those different things. And so I'm not even going to introduce my guest today. I'm going to have her introduce herself because she's just that bad girl. Tell them who you are and what you do, girl.

Hello, everyone. My name is Natasha Chantel, and I have recently given my name as the Vixen Whisperer.

Not the Vixen Whisperer. Girl.

Yes. Don't it sound good, girl?

I'm intrigued.

Yes. So the Vixen Whisperer is a licensed sex therapist, a certified sex and intimacy coach, and she is here to talk to the vixen that is all the women. So we can stop hating on the women that have embodied it, and we can enjoy it ourselves and just have pleasure and good sex while doing it.

I know that's right. So, girl, what is a vixen?

Girl? So, so. Okay, so vixen, of course, has its own definition, but for me, I think of vixen as that voice inside of all of us that says, oh, her skirt's too short. Oh, why would she do her hair like that? Oh, my God. Why she buy that thousand dollar bag? It's the vixen that's saying, hey, boo. Like, we want to do those things. We want to explore, we want to experiment, but you not letting me out. And so you live, like, this really docile life in a box, but you hate on people. And we know hate really comes from they just, like, want to be that person.

Yeah. Yeah. I'm so glad that you. You bring this up, because I think that I've personally experienced this as someone who is lgbt, right? That, like, I get to live my life with such freedom. And then there are some individuals that don't feel that way and feel like they got a hate on what I'm doing or my. My community is doing. So there. I think, you know, there's a Vixen in all of us that wants to come out. And I'm hoping that today in this episode, that we get to really talk about it and allow her to come out and thrive.

Let her out.

This is why I'm so excited to have you on the, on the podcast. So I just want to thank you before we get started for being here because, girl, there are a lot of vixens that need to come out of their cage.

Right? Yeah.

Yeah. So talk to me. How did you get into this work?

So the sex therapy part, I was one of those kids watching the inappropriate shows in the middle of the night. Girl.

Which ones? Girl, let's talk about it, girl.

So I watched Taxicab Confession Bomb Bomb. I was watching. Was it real sex?

Real sex 1 through 27?

Yes, all of them. And it's like. And I have no clue what the heck I was watching, but I was like, this is intriguing. And there's like an episode that really stood out to me. It was all about latex. There was no sex. It was a party. And it was just about latex, like touching on the latex and everything like that. And I was like, this is weird, but this is cool. Like we just touching on latex.

Okay, I love it.

So that's the sex therapy part. And the intimacy coach came in after I had my second son. I, I had my first son at 20 and my second son at 30. And the body doesn't do the same in the ages, but nobody tells. No one tells you that. They don't tell you.

Right.

They're just like, what was going on.

For 20 and then 30 post pregnancy.

So snapback is real for 20, snapback is non existent for 30. You got to put in more work. And they just don't, they don't tell you how your body changes when you have a baby, when you're older. So I, I went through a bit of anxiety and depression which led to non existent or very unpleasurable sex. Because one, I wasn't confident. So it was T shirt on at night, lights off under the covers. I don't care if you hot or not. This is what we're doing, girl.

It could have been anybody. Nobody was seeing anything.

No. No one was catching this. And it was to the point I didn't want my partner to see me naked. So I would lock myself in the closet. I would lock myself in the bathroom. And one day I almost broke a to trying to run to the bathroom so he wouldn't see me naked. And I was like, okay, wow, we got to figure it out. So then that's when I started doing my dancing and a lot of affirmations and just finding ways to intentionally love on myself. And it took longer because I did it by.