A short YouTube monologue (by Anwar White) arguing that a "situationship" cannot turn into a real committed relationship because the man has already categorized the woman and is using the ambiguity to hold power over her. The speaker calls this disrespectful, characterizes the situation as dangling a carrot and a form of control, and advises women to stop seeing men after about three months to avoid being stuck in a situationship.
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Some girl Imarie said, can a situation turn into a real relationship? No. A man has categorized you and put you in a category. And once you're in a category, you cannot switch categories. You will always be a situationship. That's. That's how. That's his level of capacity in terms of relationship, and that is also how he's seeing you.
Our job is just to honor that and let it go. Don't. Don't. Don't be seeing no man after three months. Please.
If you are, you are playing yourself right now.
I need whoever. Whoever needs to hear this. And I'm saying this with love and respect. I need you to hear this. You are playing yourself, because I will tell you this. A man that puts you in a situationship, it is the most disrespectful thing that he can do.
The most disrespectful thing. Because passively or even actively, what is. What he is doing is he is dangling a carrot in front of your face. And that carrot being an exclusive, committed relationship. Every man knows that a woman wants to be in a committed relationship, and the fact that he's not doing this is his way of holding power over you.