This is a short YouTube monologue by Anwar White (uploaded April 9, 2025) warning women—especially women of color—against dating men who are perceived as more attractive than they are ("pretty boys"). The speaker argues attractiveness parity produces healthier relationships, recommends choosing a "mid"-looking partner while maximizing other qualities, and frames this as a response to societal beauty standards; the video includes audience interjections and examples to support the claims.
Questions this video answers
Anwar White.
April 9, 2025.
"One to two engagements every month."
Chapters
Miss Talinsky said, can you trust pretty boys? No. When he's prettier than you. You should never be with a man that's prettier than you.
Sometimes we try to get with pretty boys because we don't think that we are pretty and we want to use being with them to make the world and ourselves think that we're pretty.
Don't date pretty boys because they'll make you feel very worse about yourself.
Yep. Someone said, look at Derek Jackson and his ex wife. If he's prettier than you, he will never be inspired by you, he will never want to do for you.
And you'll end up serving him.
What if he likes you? I'm going to say something that might be controversial, but I think it's very important because I've kept it very real on this live.
Everyone on this live knows a pairing that does not go together.
We know it.
Let's not play ourselves.
Research says that you will generally end up with someone at your same attractiveness level.
That's. Those are the healthy relationships.
If he is.
Making you look like Shrek.
He'S not for you.
And that's no shade. Even though y' all are laughing.
I am so serious right now.
I'm not playing games. Yeah. Someone said, not every. Not even Fiona. Fiona's cute girl.
Someone said, just booked a call with you. Good.
This is very important because especially if you're a woman of color, you have a society telling you that maybe you are not the ideal or traditional definition of beauty. So you will try to look at media, social media, and ways for you to feel better about yourself. So you will lean into the pretty boys. Don't do it. That's why I have videos saying, girl, get with a mid guy. But top everything else. Mid looks top everything else.
And people want to shade me. But that's why I get one to two engagements every month. Because your husband is not your dream guy.
Someone said, what's mid? Like a 6? 7?
Yeah.
Yeah.
So that's what I got to tell y'. All.
That's what I. That's what I want you all to know. Someone said, that's sad. What's that about it?
Someone said, the white women get the pretty boys. Let them have them. They're going to go through the same shit, but they're not going to know that they're going to be treated in the same way that they treat you. Not in the immediate future, but later on.
Let them have them.
Girl. Tiger woods had a beautiful white woman, cheated on her like hell. Now, he's not pretty, but I'm just saying, you're thinking that, like, oh, my gosh, we're losing these pretty, you know, boys to some white women. Girl, let them have them.
