Anwar White breaks down chasing versus pursuing in dating. Chasing is three dates a week and constant texting; pursuing is one date a week and letting it breathe for two to three months before saying I love you. The difference is pacing that keeps you sane.
Questions this video answers
Chasing: three dates in a week; Pursuing: one date a week.
Texting more than three times a day is probably chasing; pursuing is about once or twice a day.
Approximately three to four months into the relationship.
About two to three months (letting it take its course).
Chapters
Someone said chasing and pursuing. Can you explain?
Chasing is, I want three dates in a week. Pursuing is one date a week. Pursuing is a jog. It's not a sprint. Yeah. Chasing is like. It's the feeling of, you know, when, like, you were a little girl and you were playing tag and some boy was it and he was chasing you and you were kind of cracking up and having a good time while he was chasing you, but there was still, there was a hint of fear involved. That's how you will feel when you're being chased.
Right. Chasing is I'm texting you all day, every day. Pursuing is, I text you maybe once, twice a day. If he's texting you more than three times a day, he's probably chasing you.
Chasing is trying to get into a relationship with you after the first date or in the first month. Pursuing is letting it take two to three months.
Chasing is.
Emotionally dumping on you and telling all of your. All of his tea to you to try to trauma bond with you. Pursuing is telling you a little bit, each by each, bit by bit. Right. So you're getting to know a little bit more about him each and every day.
Chasing says I love you really quickly before or right after the first date. Pursuing is saying I love you probably three to four months after the relationship.
Someone said pursuing is planned. Basically, it's not necessarily planned.
But there's no rush. And I'm not. The guy is not trying to make you do something when someone is chasing. First of all, monsters and zombies chase people. When someone is chasing you, they're changing your natural way of being.
But the gag is that most of the time, many of us will love the chase because it means that we have attention and exciting attention.
And this is why you won't often hear, hear me say, I need that guy to be obsessed with you.
Because it's really hard to distinguish between a man being obsessed with you and a man chasing you.
I actually want him to be a little bit flustered and scared of you.
That's what I want for you.
Yeah. Because if he isn't fully scared, if he isn't a little bit scared of you, then he's not taking you seriously enough.
