Anwar White recommends Black women rest in December, then hit multiple dating apps in January when activity peaks. He suggests Hinge for lighter-skinned women, Bumble for darker-skinned women, OkCupid for intellectual types, and others based on what you're looking for. Also spend time in places where people keep resolutions: gyms, coffee shops, travel.
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Girl, get off the dating apps right now. December Q4, when Black Friday comes, you got to black out the apps. You need to rest. Why am I saying this? Because at the end of the day, girl, none of these like the good guys, they're busy, they're wrapping up Q4, they're wrapping up year end. They are being with their friends and their family at the end of the day. So you don't want to be on the apps because the guys that are on the apps are getting away from their family or they don't have nobody. So no shade. And sometimes a lot of married men are on there as well and we don't want that. So. So I want you to stay off the apps in December and I want you to focus on your goals, your resolutions and get them started in December and rest, girl, because this year's been crazy. So the other reason why I want you to rest for December and be off the apps is because I want you going hard in January as a dating coach for 15 years and as your fairy godbrother, I wanted to put you up on game and I want to give you your New Year's dating strategy. Let's start online. Online. I'm going to want you to be on at least two apps, okay? Because everyone's going to be on their New Year's resolution tip. They're going to be looking for love in the new year. So I want you to be a part of that. Online. There are going to be about 40, 50% more people in the first two to three weeks of January. This is why we call it the Olympics or the super bowl of online dating. So you want to be on there as well. Now, in terms of apps you should be on, I will be honest with you. Hinge and Bumble have been the best of this year.
I'll be more specific because I know y' all come for the tea. If you are white or Latina, lighter skinned Latina or a lighter skinned black woman, you want to be on Hinge. If you are woman of color, a darker skinned black woman, you want to be on Bumble. If you are an intellectual and you're a nerd, you want to be on OkCupid. If you're looking for an Asian man, either east or South Asian, you need to be on coffee meets bagel. If you're a bigger woman, plus size curvier fat with a pH, you want to be on plenty of fish. If you are someone who is 40 or 45 plus, you want to be on Match. If you are a Little bit bougie. And you like to be flown around places, but you're that girl who can be flown around places. You want to be on Lexi. Okay, if you are kind of like an intellectual go getter hardcore girl, you want to be on the league. But I will tell you, if you're a woman of color, you don't want to be on the league. But if you're someone else, you want to be on the league. Okay, don't go on Raya. Don't go on eharmony. Horrible. Worst of the worst. Blk and Black Gentry.
They have the guys that are on. There are the guys that when you're at the family reunion or a family gathering and they come into the door, you don't go up to them and hug them. You just wave at them from a distance because they're in shady business, fraudulent tea. So you want to stay away from them. And then. So I hope that's helpful in terms of what apps you think you should be on. You should be on two of those. So I'm hoping that out of what I just said, you can choose two of them now. Now for offline, because we gotta date online and offline. Even IF online represents 60% of new relationships offline. I need you outside. I need you in places where people are trying to fulfill their resolutions. So that means the gym. Hello. That means people want to read more. So you need to have a book wherever you go, a coffee shop, a lounge. Start reading, girl. And then thirdly, people want to travel more. So hopefully you can get a trip in there and travel. And even, even if it's a local travel, get into your travel bag. This is how you can maximize your dating strategy for the new year. I hope this helps. Let me know if I've missed anything and if you what you're going to do differently in the new year to get your person. I hope this helps.
