Anwar White and a co-host lay out time boundaries for Black women dating: matches should ask you out within a week, expect a text within 48 hours after a date, and commitment around 2.5 to 3 months. They say to cut men who miss these markers.
No — do not fly out or accept being flown out for the first meeting; first rendezvous should not be long-distance.
48 hours.
About 2.5 to 3 months into dating.
He's 'out' — not serious; you're a placeholder unless he lacks financial ability to move forward.
Chapters
Girl, most women don't know how to date. And that's especially true if you're a woman of color, a black woman, because.
You'Re not taught how to date. Right.
And you know, it's frustrating when things are not going your way because you were never taught. It's like trying to perform surgery, but you've gone to law school, it just doesn't work.
So think of me as your fairy.
Godfather and I'm gonna put you on game. I am going to give you some.
Dating strategy, AKA some dating boundaries that I want you to uphold and implement.
On your dating journey.
Yeah. Okay, so let's get started. If you are dating a guy and you meet him online and he hasn't asked you out in a week, he's out. Now if he is longer distance, let's say two hours away, he has two weeks. And if he's three hours away or longer, he has four weeks to come and see you and have a date with you.
We never go to a guy that's.
Long distance for the first rendezvous, AKA meeting or date. We don't get flew out. Girls. Yeah. Now if you have gone out on a date with a guy and he hasn't reached out to you within 48 hours, he's out. It means you are an option and you're not the priority. I get women into relationships like at least two or three every week. And the guys that they're in relationships with, you have to beat them off with a stick.
That's what it looks like. So I want you to have that as your threshold, as your expectation with a guy that is serious about you. And if he's not, he's out.
Now let's say you're further down the line and you have been kind of.
Seeing a guy for two and a half to three months.
It when the exclusivity, conversation, commitment, conversation.
Comes up and he's not ready at that time, he's out.
If he's not ready then, because a.
Man will know within two and a half to three months.
He doesn't want to be with you. Girl, no shade. And we have to like, cut our losses. I have been a dating coach for.
13 years and every woman that has given him an extra week, an extra.
Month, it's never worked out and it's.
Never worked out and it's only taken.
A month to realize that.
So please heed my words, okay? If you have been seeing a guy for two years and he is, and.
You'Re not married or you're not engaged.
He'S got to be out. He's not serious. You're a placeholder, and.
Or he's not in a financial position.
To move forward with you, which lets me know that he was never built.
When you saw him and that you.
Were building with him. And we don't build with men.
It's like buying a house with no.
Windows, doors, or a roof. We deal with men that are built.
Yeah. So it should only take them two.
Years to get engaged or married to you. I hope this helps. Put this in your notes app, girl. And if you want help like upholding and really making sure that these boundaries hold solid, book a call with me.
And I can become your dating coach. I hope this helps.
