Dating coach Anwar White argues the "cheat code" for Black women is dating men who are average-looking but intellectually and emotionally excellent. He rates men on Physical, Intellectual, and Emotional (PIE), saying a 6-7 physically will work harder for you than hot men who don't pursue, and will be sexually satisfying.
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Girl, I have the cheat code in dating. And I know that when you actually master this code, you're going to have success in dating and get into great relationships and married if you choose to do so. Now, as a dating coach for 15 years and as your fairy godbrother, I am here to put you up on game. I'm going to share with you what I share with my clients, which is that you're going to have to evaluate men based on PI P, I, E, physical, intellectual, and emotional. Now let me get to the cheat code. Yeah. Because the cheat code is this. You're gonna have to date the mid guy. Mid physically, but nothing else. Top everywhere else. Yeah. So when I say mid, I'm not talking about like a five. That's mid ugly. Mid cute is a six or a seven. Okay, now I'm already hearing your comments. I've dated the mid guy. He treated me horribly. Girl, you dated the mid guy mid in everything. Mid P, mid I, mid E. So I can understand why he would treat you not so well. You have to date mid P, top I, top E. Most of you all are trying to date the hot guy. And that's where you go wrong. Dating the hot guy. First of all, many of us are dating the hot guy because we are trying to feel pretty through the hot guy that we're with. That's never going to work. What I know about hot guys is one, they think that their punani and their choncha is better than yours. And I don't know about you, but I've got to be the pretty one in the relationship. Many of you all are trying to date a hot guy, and that's how dudes date. And you don't need to date like that. The other thing is, because they're hot, they're not going to pursue you because they have 80% of the women out there that are pursuing them, so they don't have to. And when men don't pursue you, it is very difficult for them to fall in love with you. They're going to think that they're the prize and they're going to not treat you like the prize at the end of the day. So you're going to have to date the mid guy. Why? Because the mid guy is going to work for you. He's compensating for his mid. So he's going to work hard in and outside of the bedroom. He's going to be working hard during the day and putting it down at night. Because let me tell you something right now, those mid guys are packing. Those mid guys are going to put it down, they're going to hit your walls and they are going to work for you and they're going to do more for you than you're able to do for them. And that is how men fall in love with you. Okay? So date the mid guys. Some examples of mid guys, short kings you already know are packing. Nerds packing will throw it down. Let me know in the comments if you have any other mid guys that I have completely forgotten about. Ok? Caution, caution, caution. Some of us are dating the oogly guys. The oogly guys don't do that. Some of us date the oogly guys because we want to feel like we have control over men. But the gag is that when you date an oogly guy he will know that you are out of his league and he will try to humble you because he knows that you are insecure. Don't date the oogly guys. The other thing is that the ugly guys generally are packing and know how to throw it down and oftentimes have some of the bestie and when you get caught up in that game girl and get diplomatized over for you and you're going to be addicted and you won't even know how to leave him. Okay? So don't even give the oogly guys a chance. Okay? Let me know if this has been helpful for you and if I've missed anything, please put it in the comments.
