Dating Coach Anwar Tiktok Live (May 06)

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For those of you that do not know me, my name is Anwar White. I'm a dating coach for smart and successful women of color. And I'm here to. I'm on here for a little bit of time to answer any and all of your questions. Just came on here randomly because I had a little bit of time and I still have some energy, so I thought I would just chat a little bit and see what. What the tea is, what's really going on. So.

Like I said before, I'm a dating coach for smart and successful women, and I'm here to answer all of your questions as it relates to love and dating and relationships. So if you do have any questions, please put them in the chat and I will answer them in the order that I see them. Okay? Now, one of the things that I want you to know is if you are interested in learning more about what I do, please click the link in my bio. I have a link to join my Sunday newsletter that I will send out every Sunday. Tomorrow morning, I have a link for my free trainings, I have a link to my podcast called the get yout Guy Coaching Podcast. It's an amazing podcast, so you definitely want to check that out. And if you're serious about.

Like, law, like, working with me, definitely book a consultation call with me, and we'll figure out how to help you get your guy this year. Yeah, so many women have been getting their guy, their guys in my program. It's been really crazy. And I think I have, like, this week, I had a lady from Colorado Springs. Last week, a woman from Nashville. The week before that, a woman from Dallas. Week before that, a woman from Maryland. So every week, and there's like seven, eight women that I think in the next one to two weeks will be getting exclusive with their guy, which is, like, so exciting. So it's definitely really possible. I think so many people are like, it's impossible. Yeah, it's impossible when you don't have a strategy and you don't know what you're doing, and many of us don't know what we're doing. So. And I get that because nobody teaches us. So I don't want you to think that there's something wrong with you, but we got to learn how to do it. This is the time. So I want to make sure that if this is something that you really want, that you're able to make it happen, and if there's anything that I say that really resonates with you, I want you to tap, double tap, triple tap on the screen, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, so that we can run this up. So also because I'm a. I'm a like, ho. I don't know how else to say it.

All right. I think.

Not a lot of people are on here. 92, which is great.

But let me know what questions you have, and then I will actually start answering them. Okay. Sasha said, omg. How long have you been on, girl? Five minutes. Girl, not long.

Phoenix said, I met a guy. They take me out on one date. Then we hang out, like, around town. Then no more dates. Okay. What's the question? Girl, what's the question? Steph says, what are your thoughts on hypergamy? Hypergamy is basically dating based on your social level, educational background, educational, sociological background. A lot of the clients that I work with are very much focused on this.

Naturally, my clients will do this, but I do think it's important to have a. An open mind while you are dating, because that openness not only will help you learn about yourself throughout the dating process, but it'll help you open your heart a little bit more. Yeah.

Okay. Venus, why does that happen to me? It's hard for me to tell, girl. I don't know how what you're giving on these dates. Yeah. There could be a wide variety of different reasons why you're not getting a second date. I. Right. You could have been super judgmental. You could have been talking too much. You could have been.

Not a connection, like, just no vibes. Could have been a variety of different things. So hard to tell. Lady. Rosetta said, hi, amore. Hey, girl. Good to see you. Christina Love said, on a date, should a man provide transportation or should the woman find her own way to the man? A woman should find her own way to a man. Yeah. No, you should meet him at a central location, especially for at least the first three to five dates. You don't want a man picking you up. You don't know. You don't want a man knowing where you live. You don't. You do not want to be in an enclosed space with a man that you do not know. And you should not be expecting a man to provide transportation for you. That expectation will kill any sort of vibe with a good guy really quickly. Yeah. So let's cut that out for sure. Goodwire. It said NY hey, girl. Good to see you. Bold blush said, hey, hey, girl. Elizabeth said, hi. Bengal said, why guy stonewall? What do you mean exactly?

People have different definitions of stonewall. So what do you mean by stonewall? Michelle said, how can I appear and become more feminine? Soft girl. Do I need to tap into that energy? 100%.

So give me an example of what sort of energy you're bringing to the table right now. Like, how are you engaging with men? You said appear. So are you thinking that it's a look situation? How are you engaging with men?

That's the question. Takara said, I just wanted to say first, I love you. Thank you so much, girl. I appreciate that. Sending love to you as well. Takara said, how do I break from the men that never want to make the relationship official? Quite easily. This is what you say, hey, thank you so much for, you know, hanging out. Thank you so much. It's been great getting to know you. I'm not feeling a connection right now, but I want to wish you the best of luck.

If you're having a lot of difficulty with that, then there are deeper things that we have to actually focus on. Right. We might have some abandonment wounds from dad or even mom that we need to, like, clear out so that ultimately, like, you can let these guys go. Because if you can't let guys go with the quickness, you're not ready to date. Literally 97% of the guys that you meet, you're gonna have to let go of if you can't let go. Because men will not let go. 70% of relationships that break up, it's because of the woman.

They won't break up. Many of them will not break up with you. They will make you suffer until you break up with them. So your work is boundaries and learning how to let people go and feeling good about it. Yeah. Yeah. Magic hours that I had my first relationship at 25. I'm now 27 and single, trying to date, but it's hard. What's so hard about it? Magic hour aesthetics. Jim said, how do I get my long term boyfriend to listen to my needs more? Okay, well, how long have you been with him and what needs is he not listening to?

Jordy said the vibes were there, but this man just told me I remind him of his sister. I'm sick.

Why are you sick of him?

What he's saying is that he doesn't feel a romantic connection with you.

Our job is just to honor that and to step away and to find some guy that you have a better Connection with our job is to accept. Yeah. Why are you sick, girl? Why are you sick?

Bengali said, shutting down completely. So why. Why are guys shutting down completely with you? Don't know. But guess what? It's not our responsibility to try to figure that out. That's their stuff, not ours. Don't take that shit on for yourself. It's not worth it. It's really not your lane. Yeah. That's a journey that this guy needs to go on. Has nothing to do with you. You keep on rocking out, living your best life, and go on from there, girl.

Christina loves that. The last time I met the man, he later on started asking for money for his insulin. Nope. Any man that asks for money is a no. That's not gonna work.

That's not gonna work. No way, Jose. Elizabeth said, this guy who I've been talking to for a year. So you're talking to a guy for a year. Are you guys in an exclusive relationship? Are you talking? Because it sounds like a situationship. First of all, Elizabeth slays girl. Are you slaying? Is the question. Okay. This guy that I've been talking to for a year has not spoken to me in days. And being mean, girl, let him go.

Let him go.

Jadia4 said, I deleted Grindr. Was it a great decision? Probably. Grindr is horrible for gay men. Nichelle said, I'm engaging, more friendly. I'm more of an athletic, sporty type of girl. I wear heels and dresses. I. On certain occasion.

So I think that you're thinking that the. The. The physicality is how you derive your feminine energy. It's not. It's much deeper than that. It's the being, it's the energy. It's not the physical. It's more of the emotional. Yeah.

Takara said, it keeps happening over and over again.

That's fine. Most of the time. It's gonna happen, girl. Our job is to step away when it does and not try to make something happen that's not gonna happen. Yeah. Enrique said, good evening. Good evening to you. I hope you're doing well.

Nichelle says, friend vibes I believe I give off. Yeah, well, it's hard for me to tell. I'm not in it to win it. I'm not on your dates.

So how do you engage with men, Nichelle? That's what I want to know. Takara said, I let them go, but it's like they will court me and then never want to move forward. You probably are not creating an emotional connection with them.

Or they're not feeling you're they're always going to do that when there's not a deep connection. And most of the time it's emotional. That's why in my program I teach my clients how to be vulnerable. I work with black and brown women and most of the time they aren't raised to be vulnerable on a feeling and emotional level. So that might be what's going on with you. Sidsit. What do you do if a guy comes back after you let them go? Nothing. You don't do anything. Your future husband will not ever leave you.

Yeah, like they'll respect your boundaries.

Lala said, I managed to find the only man that is celibate. He is so fine. I'm now his girlfriend. But this is hard.

Girl. Here's the thing.

Sometimes these things happen because.

They might not be meant to be.

You can struggle to get there, but tomorrow is not promised and a marriage is not promised. Yeah. How long have you been with this guy?

User889 said, Should I be dating seriously at 23? You should be dating. And if it becomes serious, great. But if it doesn't, we keep on dating. So.

Yes, but no.

Christina said, so right. Just let go of a man today and it felt super good. Good girl. Proud of you. T said, any advice for someone who is emotionally unavailable?

Are you saying that you are or the person that you're talking to is?

That's the question. Yeah. And just FYI, if there's anything that's resonating, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap the screen, tap, tap, tap, tap, double tap, triple tap. And we keep on rocking and rolling from there. Jim said.

And he sometimes feels like I am over emotional. There's no such thing as over emotional. He can either hold space for your your emotional needs or he can't. And it sounds like he can't.

Jordy said, I'm not sick of him per se. I'm sick from the comment because I like him more than that. Our job is not to change reality. Our job is to accept it. And if he's saying that he thinks of you as a sister girl, move on, Move on fast and in a hurry.

Avid reader said, how long should you wait for a guy to respond on Hinge? I don't have a time for that. Different people navigate dating apps very differently. And guys like, they aren't checking it every day. Many of them aren't. So we have to like, accept that some guys are just not gonna be so determined to be on these apps every day. That's okay. Let them. Let them run their race every Guy will have their pace. Yeah. Can I said turning 50 and getting back to dating. Any tips? Yeah, lots of them.

1. You should probably join my program. It's really funny.

I've been a dating coach for 13 years, and it's much easier to help a woman get into an amazing relationship of 50 than it is at 30 or 40. Right. Because at that moment, you know yourself more, the men know themselves more. So there's no, like, you get what you get. Yeah. Turning 50.

The men are thinking about things a bit differently. They want to know, can I retire with this woman? Is she healthy? Is she going to be able to take care of me in my older age? Those are some of the things that they're thinking about. As you know, 50, 60 comes around. Ms. DTU says, Hamwide, love you lots. Thank you so much, girl. Appreciate it. Magic hour said, I try online dating, but all I get is situationships. No one wants to date. No, if you're in situationships, that those are your own boundary issues.

You don't have to be in situationships.

I just want to clarify that.

Tay Baby said, how long should the talking phase be? What do you mean by talking phase? Because the ladies that I work with, we get, we, we get courted. There's no talking phase. Men court us. Are men courting you, girl? Because it shouldn't be courting. When you give me talking phase, it means it feels like there's parody there. I talk, he talks, I talk, he talks. No.

You sit and he courts.

Yeah. So I want to offer that we may have to think about this differently. Yeah. User477 said, I need you on speed dial. Well, if you do, you should join my VIP program because guess what?

My clients have me on speed dial in my VIP program. Yeah. They can text me and message me at any time.

Little Rennie said, 26 dating a 39 year old. Is that too much of an age gap? I generally say plus 10 years, minus five years.

Yeah.

So.

That's, that's how, that's what I say. It may be a bit, but if, if it's working so far, who am I to judge? Yeah. NJ612 said, these bus driver lives are working my nerves. Yeah, I was gonna make a video about that, but it's so played out now, I'm like, I'm over it. So I totally agree with you. It's like, girl, sometimes these, these conversations in our communities can get very trying and exhausting. I'm over it. Elizabeth says, yeah, it was a long ass situationship. I feel dumb. I tried to fix him. We don't need to shame ourselves there or or you know, call ourselves names. Please understand that you did that for for a reason. And there's deeper things happening underneath the surface that we have to heal or the pattern will continue. So I want us to get curious more than anything else. And if you want to learn how like what those things are and how to heal them, definitely want to suggest you either you book a call or you get into one of my programs, either my membership club get yout Guy Club or my VIP program to get your guy VIP program.

Michelle said, can you explain more with the emotional piece? What do you mean?

What emotional piece?

Magic Hour said Even when I accept the situationship, they ghost me. Stop accepting the situationship. Misty said, Went to Home Depot, met a cute guy who helped me. Went back the next day. He remembered me flirting okay.

Kendra Said, why do you like Hinge more than Facebook dating? I never get any likes on Hinge. I like Hinge in certain cities. C level cities. When I say sea level I'm not talking about New Orleans girl. I'm talking about like a city like Indianapolis or St. Louis. Yeah not in a big city like Atlanta or Houston or Chicago or New York or la.

Okay.

Cassinge historically has been really good. Last year it hasn't been that great in bigger cities but in like smaller cities and markets it can be really good for for black women. Black and brown women actually.

Crawford Lexi said I was talking to a teacher at my school but he never wanted to see me outside school. Then he's not interested. That's okay. Or he has his own pace.

Let him do him. Thank you so much for the 4000 likes y' all. Appreciate it. Thank you so much for the support.

More Grace8 said he blocked me and said I don't want to risk getting attached if you are not able to reciprocate.

Why do you think he would say that? Do you feel like you weren't reciprocating or do you feel like.

He has a point or that it's what he's saying? There's any truth to that?

Lala said three months now. I really don't want to break up with him. He's a great guy. Girl well here's the thing. Most people are gonna get probably engaged at the 18 month mark and married around year two.

So please understand. Do you think you have another two years of this in you or no?

Because a girl's gotta eat and I get it More Grace said, We had an emotional connection but I pushed him away for. For good reason. Why did you push him away?

Liz Carlin said, I'm 25. Never been in a real relationship. Makes me feel like something is wrong with. Nothing is wrong with you, especially if you're a woman of color. Most women of color are quote unquote, late bloomers. So please understand that you're not alone here. Yeah.

You'Re not alone. TSP said, Anwar, how did you get so smart? By literally, I've been doing this for 13 years. I've helped thousands of women get into the best relationship of their lives. Every week, another woman in my program is getting into an amazing relationship. So I've seen it all, I've coached it all. So I don't know if I'm smart. I think I'm just very experienced. Yes, I read a lot of books. I read every day. And I think that is, you know, I always feel like I can learn more, which might make me a bit different from some of the other dating coaches that kind of just go from their instinct and intuition, which is a great way to do it as well. I like to think of dating and relationships both qualitatively and quantitatively. So not only am I telling you, here's what works, but I also, like, here's what the research says as well. So a lot of my clients are very logical and analytically minded.

Kenya said, hi. Hope you're well. Yeah, girl, I'm doing well. I rested on Friday. I slept in until 1:30. I was tired. I don't girl.