Dating Q&A - 01-18-25

Hello, hello, hello, everyone. Welcome, welcome, welcome. I hope everyone is doing well.

Hello, hello, hello. What's tea? What's really going on, ladies? Hello, hello, hello. I hope everyone is doing well. Happy Saturday. Someone said we had to stop meeting like this. I know. On a Saturday night. Why are you guys online talking to a gay dude? You need to be outside talking to straight dudes, girl. Yeah. Hello, hello, hello, everyone.

Someone said, and more help us. I'm trying to. That's why I'm here, girl. That's why I'm here. It's good to see everyone.

It's good to see everyone. For those of you that don't know me, my name is Coach Anwar. I am a dating coach for black and brown women. And I'm here to help you level up your love life. Yeah. So here's what we're going to do. If you have questions about love, dating, relationships.

Marriage, men, women, anything, put your questions in the chat.

And I'm going to answer them. You hear me?

People are freaking out about TikTok and I think that it's gonna leave. I have a different thought process around that also. If there's anything that resonates with you, tap, double tap, triple tap the screen, y'. All. I need to. I need you to understand something. I've been a dating coach for 15 years, okay? And I will. One thing that I know about.

Narcissists is that they always want to be the hero. TikTok is not going anywhere. Donald Trump is going to, quote, unquote, save the day in his narcissistic behavior and bring it back so that he can feel like the hero and feel like he's self actualized. So if you're freaking out about TikTok, don't.

Don'T, don't. Mark my words. Mark my words. I'm in Canada. I'm in Canada, by the way. Yeah. Good, good, good, good, good, good. Awesome, awesome, awesome.

So.

Like I said before, let's get into this. I want to make sure that people ask me about other platforms. I'm on IG, I'm on YouTube.

I'm not really doing anything about fan base or RedNote, Red Book, whatever it is. That's not really my thing. Yeah. So I'm gonna go in here and I'm gonna figure out what y' all are giving. I also have a podcast called the getyourguy Coaching Podcast. Check that out. I literally just did a podcast about how to flirt.

So if y' all are sticks in the mud, if y' all are giving HR mode, While you're talking to these men online, check the podcast out. Okay? Because what we're not going to do is act like we're talking to these men as if they are working colleagues. Girl, never that. Okay. Okay.

So, yeah, people are saying, oh, I need. I need to listen that way. Yes, you do. Yes, you do. Yes, you do.

My book. People are asking about my book. I'm looking for an agent. And I am. I wrote my proposal. So here's how it goes. You have to write your proposal and then you have to sit down it to an agent, and then you get. You need an agent, and then the agent takes it to, like, the big five. Yeah. So I've done the proposal. I've sent it out to some agents. Some agents have come to me.

And. Yeah. So I think that's probably going to happen. And to be honest with you, and it's a secret between you and me, I've already written the book.

Yeah. So it's. Girl, it's written. Girl. It's gonna get the girls together. It is a book to help black women find love. Because guess what?

We're getting a TV show together that will help black women find love. See how that aligns.

Yeah. Someone said, please go on book tour. Girl, we are. We're going on book tour. Going to go on book tour. This is how the book tour is going to happen. I'm going to do an interview with someone cute and fun and, you know, we're going to talk about dating and boys. And then after the actual event, we're going to go out together and get these men. And hunt, honey. And hunt. You hear me? Good.

Okay, so. And to be honest with you, I also got another.

Another offer for another TV show. So, honey, this is a lot, lot going on. A lot going on over here.

So with that said, I'm gonna get into these.

These questions because Lord knows you need the. No shade. No shade. Someone said, come to Connecticut. Girl, I'm not coming to Connecticut. The only way that I would come to Connecticut is if I was still in undergrad and I had gotten accepted into Yale instead of wait listed.

No shade.

Okay.

Someone said, I'm going to miss you. You helped me get through a breakup. Girl, we'll find each other. We'll find each other. Yeah.

Okay. Someone said, I'm either a stick in the mud or I'm just not attracted to most men. Few bring the flirty side out. That's what I want to offer to you. Your energy should not be based on a man. The energy has to come from within you. If you are changing yourself and shape shifting based on the man that's in front of you, you're not being your true, authentic self.

So that's what we need to focus on here. Okay, let's see what other questions we got going on. People are saying, I'm going to miss you. I'm going to miss you. One, girl, I'm not dead. And two, this TikTok thing is going to come back. Don't freak, you know.

Okay, what does it mean if a guy stayed with me after I cheated? It means you're never going to. You're never going to get rid of him.

And no shade, he might be cheating too.

Janice said, I love you. I love you too, girl. Someone said, I'm going to need your help this year, girl. I know that's right.

Come on. If you're interested in working with me, definitely go to the link in my bio and book a consultation call. If you're, like, really interested in doing.

Like, deep work.

Yeah. Deep, deep work for an entire year, don't just book a consultation call because you want to talk to me or someone on my team, because you will get two minutes and then I will let you go. I had two of those today. Yeah. Okay. Janice said, what's your opinion on waiting until marriage? It's not something that I could do, girl, because a girl's gotta eat.

But I know that a lot of women. It's dangerous out there. Especially if you're a black woman and you date black men or all men, but specifically black men.

It's very dangerous out there. This is why two thirds of black women have hsv Herpes simplex virus.

Which is almost twice the rate of other races.

So.

If that is your truth, I want you to live in it.

Okay? And especially if you're in Houston, girl. Honey, nobody would be touching my punani. No shade. Except for me. Yeah. Okay. Cocolita said. Hi, amore. Can you explain to me why a guy texts you regularly, asks you about your day, but disappears, then comes back and does again? It's not our job. If you're asking me why questions, you already lost.

You're playing detective work. You're giving svu. Your job is not to be a detective. Your job is not to try to figure out the why. Your job is to honor the what. And the what is that he ghosts you.

Please. When things happen in your love life, I want you to ask yourself this question. Would my future husband do this? And if the answer is no, you gotta go.

Yeah.

Don't play, don't play SVU detective. Bom bom.

Okay.

Roxanne said, do you have any clients from Vegas? I sure do. I sure do.

When you are trying to figure out the why, it is because you are trying to regain control in a situation that you feel completely lost in.

It's not your job to try to regain control. Your job is just to step away and talk to two or three other men.

Replace, replace, replace, replace. Place. Okay.

Let me see what's going on. Someone's like, where are you going to be, girl? I'm going to be on Instagram. I'm going to be on YouTube. I'm still going to be on Tick Tock because Tick Tock's not going anywhere.

So. So same name. Atingcoach, Anwar. It's the same place everywhere. Yeah.

Okay. Ace Said had two dates recently with white guys. They both assumed I did not like them, though we connected. What do I do? I literally had this conversation at like, 7 in the morning with one of my clients. And you just have to reassure them that you like them because they think that most black women are not checking for them. Just like y' all think that these white men are not checking for you. Right. If y' all are together, it means something. Okay?

So trust me on that. If he's. If he's, like, telling you that he. He thinks or thought that you didn't like him, that's a very vulnerable thing to say. And I want you to take that as a sign so that you know that he actually really likes you. Okay?

Trust me. One of my. One of my clients last night got engaged, and.

Her guy said the same thing.

Yeah.

Okay. Someone said, what's your opinion on dating Asian men? Well, it depends, girl. What kind of Asian are we talking about?

What? Which one? Girl, which one?

Venusian said? Do you strictly work with only clients who are looking for love? Yeah, but I have clients. Like, everyone has their own different love goals. Whether it's marriage, whether it's just dating multiple people, whether it's just dating in general, whether it's monogamy, whether it's poly. My clients, we want to help you get to your locals, whatever that may be. Okay.

Okay, let's see what else is going on.

By the way, I just want to let you all know, thank you so much for all of your support, like, throughout this time together. You know, it's not lost on me that there's so many different voices out there on the Internet. And the fact that you continue to support me like me do all of those things. It's not lost on me. So I want to thank you so much for your support.

For sharing my videos, my content with your girlfriends, with your cousins, with your best friends, with your family members, your daughters, your mamas, your study group. I get many DMs every day. I talk to women every day. And it is so overwhelming, all of the love that I've received. So I just want to thank you all so much for that. Yeah. And thank you all for the 20,000 likes here on tick Tock. I appreciate it. Or hearts. Yeah. Vanilla girl said black girl in Sweden. Any advice? Girl, go outside, they're gonna eat you up. Like those Swedish meatballs, girl. Girl, you're the same color as those meatballs, girl. They're gonna eat you. They're gonna think that you're a meatball.

Girl.

That's the advice. Literally, go outside, let one of them snip, like, snatch you up.

Ms. Thompson said, I love that we are on the Titanic and you're still talking about love and giving advice. Because, girl.

I know men.

All of these little.

Boys, Trump, head of TikTok, Zuckerberg, they're gonna bring this back.

This is part of their identity. So y' all are tripping about this. I'm not.

Donald Trump is a narcissist. So he is going to.

Make it so that he's the hero here. So he's gonna bring it back. He'll start with the 90 day extension or some sort of extension. And then just like last year in September, people were saying that, oh, TikTok's gonna go away, girl. It didn't go away.

Didn't go away. They're just doing like a dick measuring contest right now. Don't trip on it. Don't trip. Don't trip on these men.

Yeah.

Girl, please.

Yeah, honey. He took credit for that stimulus check. He'll take credit for this as well.

Okay.

What do I think of black with Pacific Islander in Perrin and nyc? Well, girl, most of these Pacific Islanders are pretty much black anyway, girls, so it's no tea for me.

Yeah.

How to indicate interest? Well, there's like a lot of different ways you can do that. You can do that with eye life. Smize a little bit. Some of y' all smizing too hard like this. You look skeptical.

Smile, tilt the neck. I always want to give a little that nape of the neck, honey. Because these men are vampires and they want to eat. They're hungry. Right? That's how you show interest. Right? You can also wave. Now. I was a bold Bitch. If you're a bold bitch, give me bold bitch in the chat, okay? I want to know where my bold bitches at.

Because here's what I want you to know. If you're a bull bitch like me, this is what I used to do. I used to point at the boys and it just used to go like this.

And you know what?

They would always come. And you know why?

Because men love being told.

Given orders. That's why they gag in the military, girl. They gag. They love the orders from, from their sergeants.

This, this. And then when they come over now, this, like if you're with a girlfriend, this is what you want to do, okay? When you're out with one of your girlfriends, go like this and go like this. I swear to God, he's going to come, he's going to walk like he just learned how to walk toward you. So it's like a, like a, like a one year old little baby.

And then you tell him, my friend and I, we're having a debate and we want you to answer this question for us.

Yeah. And then you, yes, girl. The wobble, wobble and a wobble and a wobble and a wobble.

And then you come up with some bullshit question. Now this is a question that you and your girlfriend have to come like, come up with before you go out. Okay?

And then he'll answer it. And whatever he answers, tell him, no, that's wrong. Go away.

Yeah. People saying, do the walk again. Girl, I can't do the walk. If I'm going to do the walk, I better be in the next Thriller video. Because that's how they're walking, as if they're giving Thriller.

Yeah.

So.

That'S what it gives, girl. That's why so many men are in the military. They love orders.

Yeah. And men love sharing their opinion. Now you, now you have somebody in a conversation and if you really want to have fun, then you tag team, girl.

Double point.

Double get over here. It's a very Mortal Kombat tea, girl. Yeah. Hashtag Mortal Kombat.

Yeah.

Yes. Okay. So it's a little bit of tea. Little bit of tea. Some of the things I teach my girls in my program, honey. Yeah. Someone said Atlanta is hopeless. Girl. A lot of my girls in Atlanta are getting their guy. So what I've learned over the last six to nine months is that Houston is harder to date in than Atlanta.

Yeah. Someone said, finish him. Exactly.

Zariah said, you think that'll work on my K pop idol?

I guess so. During Pride Month.

Because Most Korean men are women down there.

Someone said, any UK appearances? Well, I was just talking. I was just dming with Mama Joyce, so I think I'm gonna go into. I'm gonna do her podcast. I'm gonna go to London in the spring and then, you know, talk to the girls. Yes, honey, the luggage is a. Is a personal item. Honey, over there in Korea.

Mm. Squid game tea. Since squid game just came out, girl, that's what it's giving.

Yeah.

Someone's asking, why is Houston so hard today? In sti rates are huge. Texas lacks like a middle class, especially.

A middle class for people of color, so it makes it harder to date in. And I think that the men in Houston overestimate themselves. The other thing is that Houston is actually getting much more expensive than it used to be. And so usually men need to feel stable in their careers to be ready to really settle down. And if things are getting more and more expensive in a city, they're oftentimes not going to feel stable enough to settle down. Not to mention it has, like, a 15 to 20% gender ratio gap that there are 20% more women, black women than black men.

So there are a lot of different factors happening in Houston.

Yeah.

So what other questions do you have for me? Someone said, come to South Carolina, girl. Why? Oh, Shade.

Yeah, honey. These Houston men, they think that they're a 10.

But they were really in Atlanta seven or eight. So that many of them had to leave Atlanta to go to Houston to feel good about themselves. No Shade.

Okay. Tiffany said, amor, how would you.

Should you wait for a work crush to ask you out before dropping it? Yes. Yeah, definitely. I'm not a huge. If it's going to be like a work crash, I want it to be like, laterally, men are be under you or over you. It can get tricky.

Someone said, I want to be seen. Where should I go? It's not about the places. It's about the energy that you have and having that magnetic energy, being in what we call your main character energy, being the protagonist in your own life. That's what's important here. A lot of us, and this is no Shade, are acting like the fat, funny friend in a Lifetime or a Hallmark movie.

And no Shade. Men aren't attracted to that. It's fun to talk shit with you for a night, but they're not going to text you the next morning. This has been my experience.

Okay, so what does it mean? It means.

Being the protagonist who, like, think about a protagonist in a movie or in a TV show. What do they do in every scene that they're in? This is a. This is kind of like a secret. But I'll tell you, honey, because you know got a big mouth.

Whoever they're talking to.

They make them feel like the star and they make them feel like they're the only person in the room when they're talking to them.

Yeah. When you make people feel special.

They will give you their energy.

And you will expand.

And more and more people will start to be attracted to you.

Okay.

Yeah. So this is what I teach my clients in my program, to make sure that they have that energy so that people are coming to them.

So like, let's say you go to a restaurant, girl, you chat it up with the hostess, you chat it up with your waiter or waitress, you chat it up with the bartender, you chat it up next to the table. When Pete. When guys are seeing that you're chatting with a lot of different people, they're going to want to actually come up to you because you've shown them that if they are to talk to you that they're not going to get rejected. Because most men are actually really sensitive to rejection. But if they see you like, oh.

She talking to everybody, so I can talk to her too, you're gonna have more and more people coming to you. Even if you got a resting bitch face, girl. No shade.

Yeah.

Yeah. So that's the T.

Divine being said. Hey, I love your content. Actually binge watching it. Thank you, girl. I appreciate it.

Tips for black women with degrees in higher ed. I'm super picky, but they are not checking for me at all. Stop being picky. Your. Your pickiness is a, like, it's like a overcompensation.

To like, protect yourself. It's a defense mechanism.

Because. Well, here's what I will tell you. In my program, I teach all of my clients my proprietary strategy so that they don't need to. You don't need to be picky. You just need to like, work my strategy. And the guys that get out of it, you engage with them, but most of the guys will fall off. So. So one of the things that I think is very important is.

Dating with strategy.

If you have a strategy while you're dating.

Kudos. If you don't have a strategy, give me a hashtag nostrategy in the chat. I want to know who doesn't have a strategy.

A framework, a guideline from getting from the first conversation to the first date, from the first date to commitment and exclusivity. Uh oh, I'm Seeing a lot of no strategies. Girl, y' all making my eyes cross.

Oh, my gosh. It's too much. It's too much.

Would you ever not have a strategy while you're at work?

No. You would get fired. Being picky is not a strategy. Being picky is a trauma response.

Yeah.

Oh, my God. There's so much no strategy. Y' all are driving blindfolded.

Girl, no shade. I drive everywhere with my ways. Just in case y' all are not driving with Waze and y' all are getting stuck in traffic.

Yeah.

They said. Hope your book will touch on dating strategies. It sure will. It's all about strategies. It's all about how to date with strategies. Someone said, I use Google Maps, girl. Go back to 2007. Girl, no shade.

Yeah, honey, I was. I ways to my mama's house.

I don't know.

So we need to get strategy. We. We need to know this step by step. Because when you don't have strategy, what happens is you will give away and abdicate your power to these men. And these men don't know what the hell they're doing in their lives. And especially with your power.

When you have a strategy, you will be more confident in dating. When you have a strategy, you will know what is inbound and what is outbound based on your rubric, not his.

Yeah. Someone said, give us a quick three step. That's what I do in my program, girl. That's what I do in my program. That's why we get three to five women into relationships per week, because they work the strategy. And while they're working the strategy, we work on the healing.

At the same time.

Yeah.

Yeah. So.

Y'. All. I'm a little bit stressed, honey, because I feel like y'. All. Y' all in danger, girl. No shade.

Nicole said, Amor's tips have taken my phone from dry to on fire. I wasn't ready for all the menses, girl. I know that's right. I know that's right, bitch. No, Shade, honey, you need. We gotta get the strategy together. You gotta know what the hell you're doing. Okay, okay, I'm off my soapbox now.

Let me cross my legs like a lady. Honey, let's get into these questions again.

Yeah.

Carla said, how can you coach us personally? Go to the link in my bio and book a consultation call and we'll see if it's a good fit or not. Right?

That's the first step. I rarely let people come into my program without at least talking to them a little bit, because it's a very safe space that we cultivate in the program because there's a lot of vulnerability there.

Troy says. Do you coach us queer folks too, Ammar? I would say about 5 to 10% of my clients are queer, bisexual, lesbian. The gag is it's the same because this relationship and dating is all about, like, energy, right? Don't let my mannerisms. Don't let my voice fool you. I am in my masculine energy.

And don't let this laugh fool you either, girl.

I'm in my masculine. In my relationship. My marriage, shall I say. Because some of these girls are telling you to do X, Y and Z. And they. They haven't gone from A to Z when it comes from dating to marriage. Yeah. So.

Here'S what I will say.

I want y' all to win here. I want you all to win here.

So definitely book a consultation call. Keep on listening to the podcast. I'm gonna still be doing these lives on TikTok, because TikTok is still gonna be here. Instagram and YouTube. Okay.

Yeah. Okay. Let me see what's going on here. What are the questions? Advice for dating out of your race.

Here is the best dating advice that I can give you about dating outside of your race. You need to assume the word yes.

Yes, he's into me. Yes, he wants this. Of course. Yes, of course. He wants to talk to me. Yes, of course. He's courting me. Yes, of course. He can't get enough of me.

Confidence is really attractive, right?

So.

Bozandi said, I think I found a provider man. Good girl. It's like catching a Pokemon. Sometimes it's hard. How do I not fuck it up? Okay, so if you have a provider man, and this is really important, ladies, because these men will want to do for you. So there's one thing that I never, ever want you to say to a provider man, and it is this.

I thought it was.

Don't ever say that to a provider man.

Ever.

You hear me?

Don't ever say that to a provider man.

And each and everything that he does for you.

Thank you is not enough. You have to come with major appreciation because anybody could say thank you. What's special about your thank you than the next woman's thank you?

You gotta go even more with your thank yous. For a provider man.

It'S not just, oh, thanks so much for dinner.

It's this.

Hold on, let me cross my legs because I'm a lady.

Thank you so much for dinner. I feel so taken care of each and every time that I'm with you.

Show that appreciation. Show that admiration. I love being with you because you are such a provider and I really admire that in you.

Oh, my gosh.

Y'. All. Tick tock, just cut off.

Tick tock, just cut off. Y' all kind of crazy.

Yeah. Don't ever say, I got it.

You got to be given appreciation and admiration.

Someone said, how do we get combos going on Raya. Get off of Raya.

Raya is a Noah.

Yeah.

Don't ever say, I got it. Don't. Don't ever say.

Oh, no need.

Yeah. TikTok literally just closed right now. Not even at 12am, girl.

Gone, gone, gone, gone, gone, girl.

Yeah.

Why get off of Rya. Why get on Raya. Have you. Have you had any successful dates off Araya?

Yeah.

Yeah. Let me tell my. Let me tell my partner that Tick tock is gone. Give me two seconds.

It's 10:30. They took it off. Not even at 12.

It is.

Honey, nothing happens. I gotta tell my man everything. Honey. I gotta tell my man everything. Honey, if you got a man, girl, you gotta tell him everything. Thing. Well, most things grow. Most things. Most things. Yeah.

Yeah. Okay, what questions do we have here?

People said, I'm just coming from Tik Tok. Girl, girl, it'll be back. I'm not worried about it at all. Not worried about it.

Yeah.

Someone said, join fan base. I don't know what I'm gonna join, but I don't think I'll need to join anything.

Someone said, what's the best dating app? There's no best dating app. There's no best dating app because.

Everyone is different.

Literally.

Sometimes. Like, I have clients in the DMV area sometimes Hinge is giving it to them. Sometimes Bumble is giving it to them sometimes. OkCupid is giving it to them sometimes.

Plenty of Fish is giving it to them.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Okay. What advice do you have for reconnecting with an ex? Don't.

Don't. Why would you.

Why would you.

No need.

How do I find a gentle man by being a gentle woman. A lot of us.

A lot of us sometimes lack warmth.

Yeah.

If you're engaging with men as if they are your competition or you're playing defense with them versus offense.

Then you're not going to attract gentlemen.

Someone said, is it okay if I'm too available and easy to get? Yes. Yes, it is.

It is a problem.

It's a problem because if you're too. Okay, here's the gag. If you're too easy and too available, the men that are doing Something, something, they won't be attracted to you.

This is why in North America the opossums are still living. They're like the only mammal that has like a pouch and is living in North America. Because when people when like their predators try to attack them, they just play dead and then they just lose interest. The predators.

Yeah.

It is only the low hanging fruit, the hyenas that will try to eat you.

So if you want a hyena girl, be too available.

Yeah. I'm a little upset that TikTok didn't wait until midnight to cut off, but, you know.

What can I say?

Got a lot of one minute mans up in here.

Yeah.

Okay.

What else do we have going on here, ladies? What other questions do we have?

Tick tock is gone, y'. All.

It'll come back. It'll come back.

Someone said, best time to date after a breakup.

You got to make sure that you're over your past relationship.

Yeah. You're going to need to.

Make sure that you can talk about your relationship, past relationships and past situationships and all of that.

Without any emotion. If you can do that, you're ready to date again. If not, if you're upset, if you have resentment, you probably aren't ready to date because you'll bring that into your current and future dating journey. Yeah.

Okay. Someone said, do you think professional and successful intimidate men? No. Not the right man. Yeah, not the right men.

Someone said, does TikTok still work in Montreal? I have a, I have a US account, so my TikTok's gone.

Someone said, my man doesn't call me or text me on the weekends. That's because he has a girlfriend or a wife.

Yeah.

Dating outside, you're raised in Houston. If you're a black woman and you live in Houston, you gotta, you gotta really lean into those Latino brothers or Ed Miles.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Someone said, why do men swipe right and then don't say anything to you? Because here's the thing, here's how men are working the abs. They're saying yes to 50 women and then they're seeing who comes back to them. Out of 50 women, five of them might respond to them and then they'll engage in those five. So what you can do, if you see someone that you are somewhat interested in or attracting.

Give them some banter. You can say something like, cat got your tongue? And then if you're a black woman, put a little black cat there, girl. Black pussy tea. You gotta, you gotta gag them, girl. You gotta have fun with this. A little Bit. Yeah.

Someone said, question, is a fat, funny girl a trauma response?

I think that oftentimes it being the funny girl is a way to get attention in a world or a life where you didn't get a lot of attention and there was neglect either at home or within peers. Right.

So I don't know if that's a trauma response per se, but.

Just know that you don't have to do that, that you don't have to perform for men.

You get to just be your.

Okay.

Someone said, I hate machismo.

Mm.

Yeah, honey. Someone said. Someone said, the independent woman, she got it really messed up the game. If a man says he really loves that you are independent, take that as an insult.

Please.

And I go said, break up with that military dude. Yeah, girl. And do it while he's on deployment, girl.

You know?

Okay, let me see what else is going on here. Let me see what questions y' all have. They're going a little bit fast, so if I don't answer your question in like a couple of minutes, please put it. Put it on again.

Someone said, your voice is so soothing. I truly enjoy listening to you and your advice. Thank you, girl. I appreciate it. Cutie pie said, I'm 45. He's 68. Should I date him? Yeah, girl, give Anna Nicole Smith, girl, all day, every day.

Girl, have fun. Date a 68 year old girl. Date a 38 year old.

If you date both of them, girl, you just take the average of it and then you date them. Two men at your age, that's dating math.

Someone said, why an insult? Because he's going to appreciate your independence. Because it means that he won't feel like he needs to do anything for you.

And that is what a man is here to do.

Yeah.

Yes, honey. Just like I said, if someone. If a guy says he's busy, take it as the B word, honey. If a guy says he loves that you're an independent woman, girl.

Take it as an insult.

The ladies that are asking me why it's an insult, I am so glad you heard me say this.

So now you know what it is.

Okay. It's an insult. Any advice for dating while in law school, girl? Date all of them. Date all of them. Because when you're in grad school.

A lot of people will date you that might not date you outside of school. When I was getting my mba, girl, I was talking to some Korean men that would not even give me the time of day if we were outside of school.

I was dating some rich private equity white men. That weren't even gay. Girl. No shade. Girl. Date as many people as possible. Don't date the lame black guys that you will date outside of law school. Girl. Date all different kinds of guys when you're in grad school.

Okay.

Yeah, honey. When they call, when they say big money.

You better leave right there.

Girl. Scammer T.

Someone said, how do you make time for dating and also do your. All your activities?

That's a great question. And you're gonna have to carve it out. You're gonna have to carve dating time out in your life. And I would carve out about 30 minutes a day.

Yeah. Because if you don't have time to date, you don't have time to be in a relationship. And dating carves out that time for you. So that when you get into a relationship, you don't have to do X, Y and z to try to make space and time for this person.

Yeah.

Okay. Are the rules for he might be gay the same across racial and cultural lines? Pretty much. Pretty much. I will tell you that in my experience.

Middle Eastern men.

Like.

They. They get into some trans women.

That's what my trans sisters tell me. So.

Yeah.

Yes, honey. Thank you, Coco. Coco said, ooh, it's hard to get through this comment section. I know y' all giving me left and right. Okay. Apollo said, thoughts on Samoan men. I'm disappointed in them.

I'm not at my normal desk because I'm redoing my office.

See this little thing? That's what the Samoan men are giving.

Sad.

That's how I attract. That's. That's. That's how I think about them.

Disappointment.

Where's the rest of it?

You got all that body, but nothing down there.

Samoans are like a shot glass girl.

Someone said, oh, nar.

More like, oh, no.

Yeah, it's sad. It's really sad. And if you don't believe me, talk to any of your Samoan or Pacific Islander sisters. They'll tell you the tea. They'll tell you that they just lay there pretending that these Samoan men are hitting the walls and they're not even knocking at the door.

Not even that.

I hate it.

And if you don't believe me, go onto YouTube right now, type in the Rock WWE. And look at his shorts, flat.

Like a Ken doll.

Trying to see if I have any Barbies around here from one of my daughters.

If you want to play Barbies, get with a Samoan.

I once knew a boy named Toa.

He was my first Samoan. First and last.

Toa just had a toa.

And I was pissed. I felt I had to keep a straight face. How to keep a gay face. Like, you know how that happens when they let you see. And you know it's not going to do anything but you don't want to.

You don't want to make any sudden moves because you don't know what they're going to.

So I gave them one of these smiles.

So, you know, I tried it.

Because mama didn't raise no quitter. Mama didn't raise no fool.

And the gag was that it was. And let me know if you've had this experience, ladies.

It was falling out.

It kept on falling out.

What am I supposed to do with that?

Ladies in the chat, let me know if you've ever been with a man and he can't keep it in.

What are we doing here?

Yeah, girl. Me cracking this smile.

That hurt more than him trying to ram that little Tootsie Roll in.