Dating Q & A - 05-21-24

Hello, hello, hello.

Hello, hello. Hello, everyone. Welcome, welcome, welcome. Good to see you all. Hello, hello, hello.

I hope everyone's doing well tonight on this Tuesday. Tea. What's tea, honey? What's really going on? Yeah.

Were you guys out in these dating streets this weekend? Were you touching grass and touching some men? Honey, catch me up. I was busy, Madam self. I was in the DMV area visiting with some. Some of my clients and chatting with them and, you know, helping them get their life. While we were out and about, someone said no at home. Okay. So y' all were sticks in the mud. That's what I'm hearing, yeah. Awesome, awesome, awesome. So for those of you that don't know me, my name is Anwar White. They call me Coach Anwar. I am a dating coach for black and brown women. So I help them heal their hearts. I help them.

Date with strategy and get into the best relationship of their lives. So if that's something that you're interested in, definitely book a call with me. The link is in my bio, and we can make sure that, honey, we can get your dating life in order and also get some healing. Because here's the thing. Yes. The. The name of my program is get your guy, but the work is really about getting yourself at the end of the day. Yeah. And once you're able to do that, the guy's going to be the cherry on top. Yeah. So definitely do that.

We're pretty full, and once we're full, we're not going to take on new clients. And summertime is our high season. So if you are ready to make this happen, I suggest you book a call now because a couple of things, because probably by the end of this month, we're going to be booked. And also you want to maximize the summer season. Summer is the season, honey. Yeah. This is where we maximize the time to really get our guy. I have about, I don't know, 12 women that are about to get into a exclusive relationship over the next, I would say, three to four weeks. So you want to make sure that.

You know that you're getting it while the getting is good. Yeah. Awesome, awesome, awesome. So with that said.

What I want to do, what I generally do when I am on these lives, is I will answer all of your questions as it relates to. To dating, love, relationships, and men or women. We're inclusive here and yeah. Hopefully help you level up a little bit on this live. Yeah. Good, good, good, good, good, good. So.

Awesome, awesome, awesome. All right, so let me. Let me come in here. Let me see what the Girls are talking about poison. I said, hey, gorgeous. Rude day. Romero said, we missed you. Yes, On Sunday, I was with my girls. I'm with my clients, honey. Hey, Samar. Hey, Shanique. Hey, Jaya. Hey, Joanne. Hey, Patrice. Hey, y'. All. Okay, Marwa said, how do you know you're healed and ready to date? Couple of things. When you can talk about your last relationship without a tinge of emotion. And. And you have no problem letting people go. Friends, family members, guys that you're dating like that you're probably ready to date, like, and date. Seriously. Right. Because half of the battle is cutting out guys as quickly as possible to find your person. Because these men are not going to break up with you. They will continue to come around. And the research says that 70% of the time, women are the ones that are breaking up their relationships. So you got to be able to have those boundaries to be able to do that. Okay. Giselle said, what's the tea with Spaniard men? I need to know. Girl, no tea there. No tea. You do much better going to a Portugal or an Italy or a Turkey Span. Your men are not it. Spain is a. Is quite racist. Girl. They'll sleep with you. They won't marry you. If you want to have a weekend rendezvous, by all means, go ahead. But, girl, they're not even putting it down from what I've heard and what I've experienced. So.

That'S why they got that list. Barcelona. Girl, they're not. They're not. They're not doing what needs to be done, girl.

Brianna said, I went to St. Martin with my man. I know that's right.

Ty X reset. Mr. Anwar, I did something stupid. You'd be mad. I don't get mad.

I get curious. Right. I get curious because everything happens based on our bonding patterns. Yeah. And so that's the work that I do with my clients to understand what those patterns are and to break them if they're not serving you. Okay. Poison Ivy's dang. I need to finish my physics homework, but I want to. I don't want to miss the live. The recordings are always coming up on my YouTube channel, which is the same name, dating coach Anwar. So definitely check that out. If there's anything that I'm saying that is resonating with you all, definitely tap the screen. Double tap, triple tap. Bring the likes up, honey. So I know what I'm saying is resonating, because if I find that, if I get a lot of comments and or likes, I know that this is probably a video that I need to do so. I will go into more detail in my major video just based on the topics. And if you feel like, oh, my God, this is. This is really interesting. This is a gem. You should definitely do a video about it. Put it in the comments so that I know, like, okay, I'm gonna talk about the small Ds for Korean men.

No, I'm not.

Hey, my livers. Hey, Lil baddie. Chandra said he asked me to send a pic. How do I respond? You don't respond because we don't send pictures to men. Because. Because the men that ask for pictures are prisoners that want to jo to your picture. Don't do that. The guys that ask for pictures will never take you out on a date. They'll use that picture in replacement of. So you just set a boundary. Right. I would feel more comfortable doing that once we got to know each other a little bit more and went on a couple of dates.

Aquarian said how to open the door to something more with a work friend. Don't do that. I wouldn't do that.

Why? Because it can get really messy. And unfortunately, based on how patriarchy and society is built up, your reputation will get ruined if anything goes down. Not the guys. I see it all the time. And then the girls have to go and find another job because the reputation that they work so hard for.

Right. Takes a little bit of a nose dive. Yeah. So.

It'S not something that I recommend. Now, if they're coming to you, you want to go off campus, girl. You know, in college when some of the cool girls never. You never saw them on campus because they were making it happen off campus, girl. You want to be one of those girls so that you're not really engaging on campus as much and everything is off campus so that people aren't even in your business like that, you know? Yeah. All right. Mom. My mom is my ID live, so I have to keep it PG because she is parentally guiding me right now. Just FYI. My mom is my biggest supporter, and she watches all of my videos, even the raunchy ones, honey. And she supports me. So, honey, get into her for being an A mom. A plus mom.

Ellen said had a guy who was doing everything right. How can I make sure I don't get played next time? Time do nothing. All you're doing is in observation mode. And if he takes his foot off the. Off the pedal, girl, then he's out. He's got to be able to do something that he's got to continue to set that pace. Yeah. All right. Sharon said, hello, sir. Anwar. Hello. Hello. Hello. Oetchi said, Dallas vs. Houston for a young black single woman.

Respectfully, based on the name, I'm getting maybe Nigerian vibes. If so, I would lean into Houston because those Nigerian men are only going to really seriously consider Nigerian women. If you're an African American woman, most of them won't seriously take you serious. Just FYI. Yeah, tonight I'm coming with the heat. I'm. I'm giving it to you straight, no chaser, because I think that y' all deserve that. Butter said, do you recommend dating apps? I do. I think that you need to be dating online and offline. Girl. We live in an abundance mindset when it comes to dating. And so I want to make sure that y' all are. Because guess what? My clients now, 50% of them are finding their guys online. 50% of them are finding their guys offline. The answer is both, and it's not either or. Okay.

Hello, Lisa. Hello, Laura. Maddie said, keep getting engaged, but then I, I want to get married. So oftentimes when you're getting engaged and not married, a couple of things might be happening.

We might be self sabotaging. We might. The family might be getting in the guy's ear. So depending on how you're engaging with the family, specifically the matriarchs, the mother and the grandmother, those are going to be really important.

So something to keep in mind. Yeah.

And also how you get to that engagement. Meaning are you like giving ultimatums? Are you kind of forcing that ring? Or is he naturally doing it on his own?

Carlin said, is it bad if he doesn't text or call you every other day? I think that if he's not calling or texting in the courtship, like every two to three days, he's probably not very interested. But it's not just the quality, it's also the or it's not just the quantity. It's the quality of the text messages as well. Yeah. A guy can send you a good morning text every day, but it doesn't mean anything. He can copy and paste that to 10 women every morning. It means absolutely nothing.

Okay, so something to think about and consider and thank you all so much for the 19,000 likes already here on TikTok. I appreciate it.

Meep mop Mope said, Do you work with people of different religious backgrounds? Do you tailor the program? So I have many women from many different religious backgrounds. I always tailor the program for every woman that's in the program. So it doesn't have anything to do with Religion. It can also have to do with age, skin tone, size. Right. Location. There are a variety of different aspects here, but it's really about the individual. Yeah, that's what's important here. Mesa, do you talk about your rates? My rates are in the four figures. And if you go to the link in my bio and you fill out an application, I have all of my programs, all of the rates and everything that's included in the programs as one of the questions in my application. Okay.

I get this question all the time. Cece asked advice for single moms.

I think it's important for single moms to learn how to get out of their masculine energy. That is like the number one thing that happens because you're in your masculine energy, taking care of everything all the time for your kids and probably for your parents and other people as well. And that you never have time to kind of just rest in your feminine. Now. Am I saying that you have to be some sort of fembot? No. What I am saying though is that if you're in your masculine, you will attract two different kinds of guys. One, that is in his dominant feminine that has regressed to a teenage boy and he was looking for a mother. Or two, a guy that is in his hyper, AKA toxic masculinity, that will try to force you to submit into your feminine. I know a lot of people are like kind of anti.

Masculine and feminine energy. I think it's very important as it pertains to the black and brown communities and it is something that we cannot unfortunately ignore. I think white dating is different because most of the men actually are in their. In their deeper masculine energy just based on how they're raised and how society is built up for them. Whereas our communities, the.

Energy dynamics are a bit different. Okay.

Re Rebos, thank you so much for the three roses.

Let me see what y' all are talking about.

Let me scroll up.

Someone said Faya for sure. Said men from Atlanta. Gay, gay, gay, gay, gay, gay, gay, gay, gay. Think they're the prize, prize, prize, prize, prize, prize, prize, prize, prize.

Dangerous, dangerous, dangerous, dangerous, dangerous. Yeah. Atlanta is the hardest city to date in.

Been that way, will be that way for a very long time. And the gender ratio is really off there. So you got six to eight women that are chasing one relationship ready man in Atlanta. That's what makes it really challenging. So you're gonna have to, you know, have an app home based and an app somebody somewhere else. Most of my Atlanta clients get with guys that are not living in Atlanta.

Yeah.

Simply Bree said, any advice for single black women in Atlanta? Move.

No, I'm just kidding. Here's the thing. It doesn't really matter where you're at it just for some places like Atlanta, Houston, Louisiana, it's just going to take a little bit longer. Places like Miami, Phoenix, it just takes a little bit longer. So for example, you know, I've always said that it's going to take 100, 150 conversations to find your guy in those places. It might take 200, 250 conversations. Yeah.

Henny D. Rich said, what dating apps are good? That's really dependent on, you know, a lot of different factors. It's one of the things that's the first thing that we do in our program based we get to know our ladies and then we give them the recommendations of the two dating apps that they need to be on. Right. We also give them a strategy around how do you go from first conversation to first date? Yeah. Because there should be a strategy around it. Most ladies don't have a dating strategy. If you don't have a dating strategy, put in the chat, hashtag, no strategy. I want to see something for a second because this is really important. A lot of us are not taught how to date. And then you go into the dating realm completely disempowered. Right. And I, I'm so glad that many of you all are following me because I, I give a lot of information, a lot of tips, a lot of techniques, a lot of boundaries so that you can at least start forming how you're going to engage in your dating life. Yeah. Because that's what's important. A lot of women are giving away or abdicating their power to these men and these men don't know what to do with it. Right. If you look at their lives, their lives are a hot ass mess, girl. No shade, just girl. Look at their bathroom. They can't even clean it. Right, girl. So how can you expect them to, right. Have all of the power in these courtships and the relationship. So my job is to empower my ladies to make sure that they are in their queendom and not in their princess energy, looking for a king or a daddy to take care of everything for them because that's not what it looks like in 2024. Well, it can if you want to, but I don't necessarily think it's going to serve you. Okay.

Mar said. How long should you date before relationship? It really depends. It can be really different, but a man will know after date six. So generally.

Two to three months.

Henny said, because hinge gives me stress. Hinge is racist. Hinge is not great for black women. So I think you need to have. You need to be like a.

A black woman that likes white men. There's a certain look. I did a. I did a video about that today, but I felt like it was not very clear. So I'm going to redo that video and post it on Friday to get us. Give you a sense of, like, who those girls are. Someone said. What are your thoughts on the recent Bumble campaign?

My thoughts are that.

And I saw this video of another creator, which I completely agreed with. One of the things that you have to understand is that when it comes to dating apps, most dating apps get money from men. So the customers are not. Are not women. And I think a lot of people think that the customers are actually men. And so what they thought they were doing was appealing to men, and they. They underestimated the power of women. Bumble has had misstep after misstep after misstep. Yeah. So I'm not surprised by it.

Yeah.

It's unfortunate for them.

Because it is one of the dating apps that is. Okay. So.

I'm someone who has kind of deprioritized dating apps right now. I think they'll probably pick back up in Q3 and Q4. But right now we're outside, and if you're not outside, you're missing an opportunity, especially now that it's getting warmer.

Period. Said I can't get past first dates. Well, there might be a reason for that. Yeah. A lot of the times when you're getting. When you're not getting past first dates, and I'm saying this with love and respect, y'. All. Yeah. It's because you're not playful and fun, and you're acting like this is like a diplomatic meeting or an interview so they don't feel connected to you. It's because we probably are lacking a little bit of vulnerability, like actual deeper connection. And oftentimes you might be acting like you're competing with a guy. So if he says, oh, my gosh, I'm going to Paris this summer, it's going to be really exciting. And you think that you're actually connecting. You're saying, oh, yeah, I've been to Paris three times. Da, da, da, da, da. Well, now he. He feels like an inadequate fool. Yeah. And so that feels like competition or one upping, and that creates disconnection. So I know a lot of women naturally do this because they want to connect, but it actually has the opposite effect. So those are just some examples of what might be happening on first dates. Also, if you are, let's say, neuro spicy, oftentimes what will happen is that you won't. You'll cut off your partner, your conversation partner, and you'll start going into different conversations, and he will feel very unheard of. That happens a lot as well. So that is something that you might want to think about. Right? Making sure that the conversation. It's one of the questions I always ask my clients. What was the conversation ratio on the day? Because in my program, my VIP clients reach out to me after every day, and we talk through the day to glean insights from it so that we're always learning. Right. More than anything else. Okay.

Freckles said. The guy I'm dating is so unattractive to me. He has most of the qualities I'm looking for. I'm struggling. If the attraction level is not increasing over two or three weeks, you're gonna have to let it go. And it sucks. It's one of the hardest things to do in dating because they have everything else. But, girl, you can't continue to be with him, because if that were the case, then y' all are just going to be roommates, and you could have gone on to Craigslist for that if you. It was still available.

Right? So that. That's what it. That's what it means. It means it's not meant to be. You can't fake the funk. What are you going to do? Pretend to have, you know, pretend to like him kissing you? Right? And instead you're completely disgusted. If you don't want a guy to kiss you, you. You shouldn't be with him.

Don't fake the funk. Because what happens is when you ignore that, what happens is that you start to not trust yourself.

Everything in your soul is saying, don't be with this guy. But then you. Are you continuing to try to make it happen.

That's when you start to abandon yourself, and you create the pattern of abandoning yourself. Okay? So.

FYI, if you're loving what you're hearing, definitely tap the screen. If you're like, oh, my God, I need to do this, like, deeper, deeper work, right? Because I'm just giving y' all a sliver of what's in my program. Definitely book a consultation call. Let's get you all up in this gig, honey. Let's get you dating like a queen. I have clients that are going on two, three dates a week, clients that are going on vacations, traveling last Night. I just talked to three clients that had gone on a variety of vacations with the people that they are actually in relationships with. You know, I'm getting at least two, anywhere from one to three clients into a relationship a week. On average, about two. Because we're doing the damn thing. Yeah. And for those ladies that maybe have lost belief in love and dating, it is very possible. I see it every week. Okay.

EBONY says, do black women have better chance with Asian men? I'm not really a huge fan of, like, certain Asian men being with black women, like Koreans and Indian men, just because the families just oftentimes will not accept you. Unfortunately. I'm just giving you the tea if you want to. There's some women that hate when I talk like this, but I kind of just chat with you like, you're my sister. I would never want you. Now, is this everybody? Obviously not. Like, I hope that many of us are using our critical thinking skills to understand. When I talk about certain groups, I don't mean absolutely everyone, but I do mean the majority of them. Yeah. So it makes it really hard to, like, invest in all of these relationships and then realize that they're just going to do what their mamas want them to do.

Yeah. So you're gonna have to figure out, when you're dating these kinds of men, are they very protective over you? Because if they're protective over you on dates, you know, physically, emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, then there's a higher probability that they will also protect you from their families. This is the same for white guys, too. Yeah.

Teddy bear says, I'm in the military. Nails, hair, stay done. Men don't approach me. I'm always the one initiating.

There are different ways to initiate. Yeah. You know, I think. I think positioning yourself well is important. I think people think, oh, my God, I don't want to approach a man. You don't have to. But I do think it's important to position yourself well. So if he's at the bar, sit right next to him. Order right next to him, girl. Right. If he's, you know, in an aisle at a grocery store, walk up next to him, get some green beans, girl. It's good for your health. Honey, go get that toilet paper if he's right there, girl, because everybody needs it. No shade, Right.

So position yourself well. I have a whole module in my online course and in the sessions that I do with my clients in terms of how to make those in person experiences happen and work for you. Yeah. Zakiya said Anwar. Anwar. He's our man. If he can't fix it, no one can. Girl, I just share what I know. Honey, I'm nobody's guru. I just want the. I want the best for you all. I think that you all deserve all of the love in the world. And so I do my best to try to help you. From what I know. Yeah.

Crystal said, should you ever text first during the courting stage. So one of the things that I have in my program is the exact get your guy dating program. Process what you need to do on date 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, so that you can get like. That will align with the male psyche. So definitely at the beginning of the courtship stage, I would not text first. Everyone's going to have their. Their own way of doing it, but I wouldn't.

Be. Well says, what do you think about the 90 day rule? So which. Which 90 day rule? There are many of them these days. Yeah. Are you talking about that one about relationships? Are you talking that one about intimacy?

Cece said, I want to date white men, but I only attract black men. What should I do? You need to talk to these white men, honey. They're not going to approach you in the same way that black men do. Right. You're thinking that they're not into you because they're not coming up to you and spitting game. Like maybe some of these black guys are. That's not how they do it. If you see if a white guy is talking to you for more than two or three minutes, he's into you. If his feet are pointing toward you, he's into you. It's body language. We can't help it if he's, like, hovering around and stays around you, girl, you. You know, like a little pesky mosquito, honey. It means he's into you. Same with Asian men. This is how they do it, honey. That's why so many black women don't understand that there are so many men that are really checking for them. It's just that they do it completely different than the black guys do. So they think, oh, my God, only black guys are into me. No girl and no shade. But a lot of black guys actually aren't as into you as you think.

Yeah. So.

And that's not me coming for you. I'm just saying you're leaning into something that is not necessarily reciprocal. So that's why I am a dating coach that definitely encourages and recommends that all of you date everybody. You will 7x your chances of getting your guy if you're able to do this and that's what I want for you.

Yeah.

Ebony, thank you so much for the rose.

Kimberly said, what time did I start the live?

Maybe 30 minutes ago, girl. I had to watch the basketball game with my mom. It's part of our bonding.

Let me see what y' all are talking about. Shirley said, and he's worth every dollar invested. I know that's right, girl. Thank you, honey. Yeah, honey. My girls are getting their guys, honey. That's what it's about.

Nicole said, do you do scholarships? I usually do them around April right at the end of Q1. For those individuals that have been following me for a while, that have been supporting me, that come to my lives all the time, I kind of know.

Who they are, so I generally give them like a 50% discount. And for some ladies, I give them a full scholarship. For those that are really kind of, you know, really being helpful and supportive in my lives and also, you know, always like and comment on my on my posts. So a lot of that is not taken for granted. Okay.

Life is peachy. Said, omg, you just read me hot. Damali said, hi fairy godbrother. Hello, hello, hello.

Aunt Ronnie said, hey, Godbrother. Cece said, this is spot on, I hope.

Let me see what these questions are looking like, honey.

Okay, let me scroll up. Pretty chopsticks. Omg. Love it. God brother, you're always on point. Thank you so much.

Kila Said, I told him I don't chase. Haven't heard from him since. Good girl. Good. I love it. A lot of men want you to pursue them because a lot of men actually don't have a lot of relationship experience. And so what they are benchmarking they're dating on is based on their relationship with their mother and their mother did everything for them. They and these mothers enmesh their sons especially if they grew up in a single parent household hold. And so men expect us now expect that from the ladies that they're dating. So that's what why having a dating strategy is actually like Paramount. Yeah.

Someone said I'm gonna pay attention to the white guys now. Black wife effect. Yeah. Here's the thing. I love the black wife effect. I think it's cute. But a couple of things.

Don'T feel great for me and it is this one.

I think all those black women are just making these white men look like black dudes that are have a great lineup. No shade. Right. And to be honest with you, I don't really care about a man's level up. I care about yours. So great. If There is a black wife effect, but I want to know about the wife. The white man effect. What is he doing for you? And how are you leveling up? Are you now, are you flying from economy to business class? Do you have multiple homes? How is he? What is he giving to you? That's my focus. I don't care about what you're giving to him because that's not what it should look like.

You should not be putting in more work than he's putting into you.

Okay? So I love it. I think it's cute. The boys are get cuter and cuter. But I also want to know what the hell he's doing for you. What has he done for you lately?

Oh, yeah.

And that's on Janet Jackson.

All right.

And I get all worked up. Honey, my. My pressure. Honey, my pressure. My heart. Let me have a sip of my Dominic.

Quenched.

All right, so let me see what. What the girls are talking about. Why does the perfect man exist?

No one is perfect.

And what I think, I want you, you all to think about is.

Does the perfect man for me exist based on my journey and the self development and growth that I need to do?

Right?

And that means that the guy actually doesn't have to be perfect, but he has to be perfect for your growth.

Yeah. Which means that he needs to help you create a safe environment so that you can grow and be a spiritual partner for you. That's why oftentimes I have to lovingly nudge my clients toward men that are actually going to help them in their growth. Because it doesn't look like what it's supposed to look like. It's not part of my pattern. It's not my type. Your type is not your type. Yeah. So.

That'S how I think about it.

Ruby said you're glowing. Thank you so much. I appreciate it. Honey. Is that snail mucin, Honey? It's that rose water in the morning and no shade, girl. But.

She'S happy.

She's happy. Yeah.

Ms. Monique said. So glad I caught you on live. I'm happy too. Happy too.

Will's upset. Can you please advise about North African guys?

That's hard, girl.

You mean the brown ones. The brown ones, not the black ones, girl.

Well, they packing. That's number one. You know me, girl.

But they can get real possessive real fast.

They're fine, girl. Fine. And they got some black in them, so it feels like home when you're with them. You know what I mean? I don't know. The girls who get it, get it.

But they're possessive and they can actually grow to anger really quickly.

So that's something to take into consideration. I live in Montreal, so there are actually a lot of northern Africans here, here.

And culturally, many of them think that they are more powerful and better than women. And just because you're an American, it doesn't necessarily mean that they're going to think differently of you. So something to consider.

Most, not all.

Riri Bose, thank you so much for the three fire fires tarot talk. Thank you so much for the rose. Maya said, never underestimate the power of a good haircut and a beer. Oh, girl, don't I know it. But girl, here's the gag, y'. All and here's what people are not telling you that I need, I need. We need to have a conversation about.

What happens when we shave the beard off. Because there's going to come a day where he shaves the beard off and you're going to need to know what he looks like. Cuz some of these men are fooling you with a beard, honey. When you take it off, girl, he goes down three points in attractiveness. Maybe he's an eight with the beard. But then when he shaves it off one day, because he will, he goes down to a five, no shade. What happens then?

That's the scary part, girl. That's the Halloween of it all. He goes from a 35 year old man to a 16 year old little boy and you feel like you're perving out.

Yeah. The beard, the way that the beard is shaped up, girl, you think that he has a jawbone, girl. And then he shaves it off, girl. And he looks like a Victoria's Secret model.

No shade, shade.

Five o' clock shadow realness.

So you got to see it. So when you're dating him and it's later on in the courtship, you got to be like, oh my God, let me see some pictures of you when you were younger. Yeah. Cuz they never have a beard when they're younger, girl. Because they don't. They don't know the power of the beard. Yes, honey, Beard fish. Not catfish, girl. Beard fish. So let me see you in college and then you can clock it, girl. Then you're like, oh.

No shade. But you have a. Without a beard, you have a very couture look.

Yeah. Oh my gosh. W. Whis said check your questions, girl. I'm. Girl, I'm coaching right now. So I'm gonna coach first and then when I'm done coaching, I come to the questions. Yeah. Yes, honey. Somebody said hiding those weak chins, girl.

Someone said I'm wrong where.

Where? Who, when? Where? How? What?

Don't bring me back to fourth grade English class, girl. Yeah, yeah. Secateur. Very fashionable.

Yeah.

So for those of you that are interested in working with me, go to the link in my bio book a call and thank you all so much on Tik tok for the 69. 69,000 likes. I'm living for my IG girls. Let me see what's, what's the tea K. Marie said do you believe in right person? Wrong time? I do because it actually happened to me, girl. I met my partner first in 2011. I wasn't ready. I wasn't ready. I needed to do my work. I thought that I was better than everybody else. I thought my shit did not stink. I needed to heal my father wounds and I needed to do deeper work to allow myself to have the emotional confidence to be vulnerable.

My man was ready, I was not. And then he came back around a year or two later.

When I was ready.

So then we could come back together and make it happen.

Yeah.

Salonia said. Do you believe in spinning the block? No, girl, I don't.

Because I'm not a trash man. And a trash man spins the block. I do not. And you shouldn't either. You'll get your hands dirty. Yeah.

And that's on.

Recycle.

Oh lord.

Somebody get me, honey. Somebody get me. Acting a fool for no reason.

Okay.

Yeah. And the gag is the thing about the beards is that body language. Because I. I used to study this about 10 years ago. When a man has a beard, it often body language means that he's hiding something. Yeah. Which is interesting. So.

Sharon said. Lol. Please stop amore about the beard. Why girl? Cuz these men are fooling you because guess, guess what, girl. And this is the girls. This is for the girls who also get the plastic surgery and everything. Y' all get with these guys with the beards thinking that he's fine, girl. And then you have a baby and the baby looks like him and the baby might not be as cute as you want it to be.

Clock it.

You gotta know who you, who you're with, girl.

Because this how it goes. One pretty one, one not so pretty one. That baby. Depending on the gender. If you're the pretty one, if you get a girl, she'll be pretty. If you have a boy, he going to look like him.

And I know y' all want pretty babies. No shade.

No shade, girl. No shade.

No shade, girl. No shade.

Yeah.

Yes, honey, yes.

Someone said should I message him? I don't even know the context and the answer is no.

I already know the answer is now.

Yeah.

Okay. Christy said, should we set our apps to travel mode to cast a wider net? Yeah, why not? Why not? Yeah.

Someone's kind of trying to catch me. Honey, Beautiful reflection said what about the girl looking like dad? You're not going to get me cancelled. Not tonight night on not on this warm May night honey, you're not going to get me kicked off banned from tick tock sweetie.

Yeah.

Nice try. You probably working for some of these other dating coaches that are trying to plot my downfall. Girl, not tonight.

Yeah, good.

Okay, let me see what y' all are talking about. Liz and media said how do I get over a man who goes to me by realizing that when I.