Dating Q & A 07-14-24

Hello, hello, hello.

Welcome, welcome, welcome. I hope everyone's doing well.

Hello, hello, hello, everyone. Welcome, welcome, welcome.

For those of you that don't know me, my name is Coach Anwar. I am a dating coach for black and brown women. And.

Yeah, I help them get into the best relationship of their lives. Yeah. Let me think. This week, we had three exclusive relationships in my program. We had a lady who's in a relationship that got to the I love you stage, and we had one engagement. Yeah. So if you're ever thinking, like. And I literally was. I've chatted with at least five women tonight in my program, and probably at least three of them are going to get into relationships in the next two weeks. So if you're ever losing hope in dating and thinking, like, oh, my God, it's never going to happen for me.

It can happen. Yeah. And if you're interested in learning more about, like, what I do, you can definitely go to the link in my bio and book a consultation call. Okay.

Let me see what's going on in this chat, because I already know y' all are going to act out. Now, what have y' all been doing this weekend? Have you met any men, honey? Because I'm tired of you all complaining about the dating scene and then you're not out and about and you're not talking to people and you're acting like it's March 2020 and you're not leaving your.

Girl. You got dating Covid.

What's that Tea? What's that? TT Girl. Yeah.

So let me see what y' all are talking about. Hello, Midlight Purple. Hello, Win. Win. Hey, mk. Hey.

Sea lover. I think that says a lover. Laura Love. Oh, my God, I miss you. You going on live? Yeah, I probably am going on live one to two times a week. I'm really busy right now, y'. All. Okay. So what's my tea? My tea is I am writing this goddamn book, honey. And I am having conversations with TV production companies about this TV show that I'm supposed to be on, girl. That I'm supposed to be making happen, girl. And then I also am doing another partnership with, you know, Hulu, so that's coming out really soon as well. So she's busy, so I don't. And I'm not doing a lot as many videos because I just came back from vacation as well. But.

I will be doing at least two videos next week. Yeah. So someone asked, how do I hire you? You go to the link in my bio and you click on book a consult. Yeah. That's what you do. Alrighty. All right now, ladies, in the chat, let me know, are we in an R B? Are we in a neo soul sitch? What are we feeling this. This evening? Because I have to get into the mood. Honey, you can't just, you know, pump and dump, girl. You gotta warm it up, Chris. So let me know, ladies, what are we doing tonight?

What's that tea? Okay, I'm seeing. Oh, my God, girl, you got. Y' all making me count. This is. This is starting to feel like Biden and Trump, honey. 49. 49. Okay, okay. I'm seeing a lot of R B. So I'm just going to give R B tonight, honey. Okay?

Someone said always R B, girl. Always Coca Cola, always.

That, that tea.

F1 said. And where I need you as my therapist, girl.

I'm a dating coach. I am not a therapist, but sometimes I give therapists. Sometimes. Yeah.

Okay, let me see. Oh, so, okay, I didn't even introduce myself. So I'm dating coach. And these lives are about you asking questions about your dating life, about dating, love, relationships, men or women. And I will answer them in the order that I see them and hopefully help you level up your dating life because that's really what I'm here to do. If you are interested in learning more about what I do, definitely click the link in my bio. I have a link for free dating advice, which means free trainings. I have a link for my podcast episode. I have a link to book a consultation call if you want to work together. That's what it's about. Yeah. And I want to let you know because I was telling everybody that I was changing my prices on my birthday on June 26, and I haven't changed my prices yet, but I'm doing it this month. I've just been so busy with new clients and everything else that's going on, so I haven't had a chance to change everything yet. So if you want to sneak in with these prices, honey, you want to book this call now. Otherwise don't get mad at me.

When the price is a 500 to $1,000 more. Yeah, okay. Mama Zaza said, hey, my brother. Hey, girl. Hey, everyone. It's really great to see you. Renee said, how do I hire you? Book the consultation call. Samantha said, why do only older men talk to me? I'm six. Six older men like tall women. Like plus sized women. They like all women. Yeah.

But I also, I don't know, like how you're dressing dress. The way that you dress has a significant way in Obviously, the way that men approach you. Nico said, just binge your podcast. Good girl. Thank you so much.

Please if you can follow, subscribe. It's called the get your guy coaching podcast. And yeah, leave a review.

A 5 star rating because it is 5 stars. Don't give anything less than that because that's ridiculous. No, I really do put a lot of work into that podcast. That's why it is such a highly rated podcast, which I love. Thank you so much for all the support.

Said. How do past clients inform you on updates? They will text me because some of them have my number. They will like message me, they'll email me, they'll message me on Facebook. All of that.

Yeah. So.

Yeah, I'm thankful that I have great relationships with so many clients that they feel the need to update me on their lives. Yeah.

Someone said, I went out and it was horrible. Why was it horrible? Girl, where did you go out?

Mama Zaza said, where can I travel to by myself? Girl, so many places.

Now. If I were a woman and I was trying to get my life and I were and I was.

I would be traveling to not Greece, girl. Ireland.

Southern Italy.

Maybe Croatia.

Colombia.

Those would be my top places.

Okay, what are we asking people? Heather said, what do you think about divorce, guys?

I can't give you a broad stroke on that because some of them are good, some of them are not good. The one thing that I think is really important.

When you're like navigating guys.

Is how long did the divorce take and why did it take? So why did it take the time that it took? You want to ask that question? Also, some people feel like, oh my God, if I try to date a guy that's divorced and it's been like two or three months, it might be too soon. Men get put themselves back on the market much quicker than women do. Okay, so if a guy's divorced and he's out there within two to three months, continue to date him. Okay.

Elliot said, I'm 25 year old, plus size engineer, late bloomer. Any advice? Yes, girl. Date, date. D D.

Everybody. You're gonna need experience. Your job right now is not to get married. Your job is to not get into a relationship. Your job is just to date. And because you are a plus sized woman, you want to really date the guys that are checking for you. So black guys, Hispanic guys, tall, lanky gamers, big bodybuilders. Which means you might want to hit the gym a couple times to meet them or go to a GNC store.

Yeah. So.

Tall lanky gamers, go anywhere that has WI fi. Go to Best Buy, go to Gamestop, go to Comic Con. Right? You're an engineer. You need to start talking to the guys that you work with. They probably living for you and you don't even know it. Yeah, they probably. Some of them probably can't get enough of you, girl. But you're so focused calculating, you know, E equals MC squared, that you're not seeing that they're staring at you. So also make sure that your eyes are open while you're at work, okay?

Mikel said, I have a crush on this guy and I'm scared to DM him. Don't DM men, honey. Whatever you do, don't do that.

Let me see what y' all are talking about.

Illinois said, smart women have the smallest dating pool. Give us some sad R and B. Don't be sad, girl. Don't be sad about that. Go into the dating pool understanding and realizing this. Yeah. And by the way, if I say anything that resonates with you, tap, double tap, triple tap the screen, okay? To get these likes up. That is how we're going to get this party rocking and rolling. Okay?

I forgot to mention that at the earliest part of this live.

I'm like 9,000 likes. That is really low. So.

I think many of you all must be new to this party, honey, but we getting it together.

Someone said, play Chris Brown. I will never play him. He played himself. Catch that. How many men is too many men to date at once? LHP asked. I always say that it's important to Olympic date, which means that you should have a gold medalist, a silver medalist, and a bronze medalist at all times that you're physically going out on dates with at least once per week. Okay? Your job is not over until you have that. Once you have your podium filled, then you can stop swiping and stop meeting guys. Other than that, you're not done dating Millie. Thank you so much for the rose. Mad Band said, just cut off my situationship. Congratulations, girl. That's amazing.

Danny did that. LLC said, I met a new guy and have been using your free advice. So far, so good. Can't wait to invest. For real. Awesome. I love that for you.

Let me see what's going on here. Cara Car said, what's a good way for single moms to answer? How's your relationship with your child's father? Honestly?

Honestly.

You can let them know that we're cordial, we're civilized, we don't really talk. You don't want to go into Much detail.

Okay.

Check. Hube said. Do you take requests to chat? I don't. I don't. User633 said dating in my 50s so I'm actually doing a seminar for my clients about all of my clients that are 50 plus. I'm doing a seminar next Sunday with them to share with them the unique experiences that they're going to have to focus on so that they can thrive while they're dating.

B says thoughts on dating a white guy who is divorced from a black woman. Good. Let's see what's going on. What's that? Tea? Yeah. You already have evidence that he's into black.

Women so that's good. Yeah. Angelique said and why I went on a date. We got physical early. Made it a a friends with benefits situation. Haven't heard from him in a week. You're probably never going to hear from him. He's categorized you as a good time girl and.

I would move on.

I would definitely move on.

Shell said, I haven't been in your life for a while. Well I've been on vacation and I also haven't been doing as many lives lately just because I've been tired. I've been doing so much girl and you got it. What did they say? Self care girl.

Makes it. What if a guy is really great in person but a really dry text to depends what dry texture means. Sometimes these guys will text because they're trying to get the logistics of the date together. But you have to understand that the way that he's showing up is the way that he's always going to show up so and 80, 90% of the time you're going to be texting and or calling him versus being with him. So this is important as you figure out like do I want to deal with this or not.

Text game sometimes is even more important than the the physical dates. Hello romance my life. Hello Deja.

Zde says he blocks me when I have an opinion as a silent punishment. Anyone that does a silent treatment on you is toxic and you need to eliminate them immediately. Okay John Slimming products thank you so much for the rose. I appreciate it.

I want sent you just being in a rigorous doctoral program steerman away well if you don't have a lot of time to devote to the courtship then that's going to be a turn off because you're not taking it seriously and then it just I think it depends more on.

Their education level if they have let's say a bachelor's and they're doing well for themselves it's probably not going to be that big of a deal.

If they're not educated, they might feel really intimidated by that. But also it's how you show up. If you're a know it all and a lot of doctoral students and doctors are know shade, then it's going to be a turn off, you know.

Okay.

Let'S see what else is going on here.

What advice do you have for a 19 year old plus sized woman and dating 19 year old? Stay in college, girl. Get your degree.

Date while you're in college. Study abroad, particularly in Europe.

Date 5 guys at a time and get fluent in a language while you're dating them.

Yeah.

Naomi said, I love you. Thank you girl so much for the love. I appreciate it.

Keys said. Tips for avoiding controlling men. I feel like I am soft, feminine and I keep attracting crazies. You're too soft and you're too feminine. That's the problem. There are different levels of feminine energy and if you're attracting controlling men, it means that your boundaries are not in place where they need to be. It also means that your feminine energy is one where it is like giving too much power to men. Right there is like, there's like level one which is like I'm always texting him, I'm always calling him, I always need him, I'm nagging him a lot. Right? That's level one. I feel like you're probably closer to level one and I'm not coming for you. Level two is Miss Independent. I don't need a man. I can do it all for all by myself. And then level three is where you want to be and where I teach my clients to be, which is I can do it for myself, but I'm going to allow you to do it for me so that you can feel good and I also can have things off of my plate and feel more relaxed and less stressed.

So you got some boundaries that you're going to need to kind of enlist and start to institute in the courtship phase.

Because controlling men will not know what to do with your boundaries and they will repel them and that's what you want.

Sugar and spice. Do you watch Love Island? I'm so busy. I haven't caught it. I've just gotten. I've just caught clips on Tik Tok, but I, I need to, I need to watch it sounds like it's very, very interesting.

Shell said, I gotta find my lanky gamer. Sure do. Sure do.

Dark 3, 30am says I have a date with my first Caucasian man. Any tips be your fabulous self. Confidence is everything. That's what they're looking for. If you're acting like it's 1860 all over again, girl, it's not hot, no shade.