Dating Q&A - 07-21-24

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Hello, ladies. I hope everyone is doing well. Welcome, welcome, welcome. For those of you that don't know me, my name is Coach Anwar. I'm a dating coach for black and brown women. And I am here because I told you that I would come back on. On Sunday nights for the girls that were on Friday night. I challenged you all. I challenged you all to make it happen this weekend.

I challenged you all to make it happen this weekend. Do you all remember? Someone said I was waiting for this. Yes, honey, it's Britney. It's Anwar, bitch.

Don't get me speaking Xhosa again, girl.

I challenged you all to.

I challenged you all to get a guy to buy you a drink and to get two numbers.

That is what I challenge you to do on Friday.

Who did it? I want to know who did it.

Romy said, amore, you got me a boyfriend. Love from Tampa.

Ally knows that we not doing Coast OSA tonight. Why not, girl? Erica said we need more. Mouth clicks, child. I know. Okay. It's nothing. I'm fine. Said I got two numbers and no drink. All right, Girl, you gotta be. You gotta be the right said, done. Okay. Tori and Queen said, me? Yes, girl.

Okay, let me see what else. Who else is? Who else got their life? Tony said she got a date. I love that.

Mikhail says she loves a shirt. Honey. Ms. Brittany.

OG Mamiana said, Anwar, love you. How was your day? Was good. Okay. Shawnee said, I almost did it. I got a number. Great. Great, great, great, great, great. Okay, Lovely. Said three numbers and two drinks. No shade, but you are a teacher's pet. Okay, let me see what else y' all talking about up in here. Okay. Stay fit. Says she missed the challenge. Do what you gotta do. Said I didn't leave the house. You did not do what you needed to do then. Okay, Princess. Alyssa, she did it. Terry Lynn said, coach, I got stood up tonight. Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. You always want to do a phone date, honey, before you go on a physical date, most of the guys will stand you up on the phone date. And so it will help you not get stood up. Okay. Chair. Danta said, yes. Two numbers and a drink. I know that's right. Good. Now, did I. Friday night, I gave y' all the blueprint in terms of how to work a room. Did y' all work a room this Weekend. Okay. Hello, Miss. JBD said, I got one number. Then he told me he's an atheist. Doesn't matter, girl. Tell him he doesn't have to believe in a God, girl. He just needs to believe in buying you a drink. That's what I'm talking about, girl. Y' all are trying to marry these randos in the bar, in the club, in the lounge. I'm asking you to do it for the plot. I'm asking you to have fun. Because the girls who date for fun get into relationships. The girls that date for marriage stay single. And if you don't believe me, talk to the older women in the church.

Someone said, I need a do over.

Yeah, y' all missed the tea. I was acting a goddamn fool on Friday. I'm literally looking at that video now. Cuz I'm trying to figure out whether I need to put it on YouTube or not, because it was so racy and it was so messy, and I have children. Like, I don't want them looking me up one day and listening to some of the shit I said on Friday, which is that crazy. What I'm gonna do, though, ladies, is I'm going to.

Put this, the second half of that Friday night live, in my podcast this Wednesday, because it's all about how do you work a room? How do you get three numbers and at least one to two drinks purchased for you?

Okay? Someone said, put it on YouTube, please. Girl, I already said I'm probably not gonna do that, girl, because I have a reputation. I'm a virgin.

Stay fit with Shan said, honey, Friday's live was the best, girl. It really was, girl. Epiphany said, post it, girl. Don't tell me what to do. I'm growing.

So yeah. Oh, gee, ma'. Am. Yeah. This so disappointed, girl. I said I was gonna come back if y' all were gonna do this challenged. Yeah. Someone said, I missed it. I was babysitting. Honey, you need to. You needed to man sit. That means sit on men, not babysit.

That's why we're here.

Do you hear me? Yes, Coach. Erica Love. North, south, east, west. You caught that tea. You caught that tea.

Oh, my God. April said, I didn't get the memo on the challenge. I was hungover from the Click game.

Girl. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to say. Someone said, I love the necklace. Thank you, girl. I love my husband.

The girls who know. No.

Oh, my gosh. Okay, so my challenge for the girls that missed it was that you needed to get two numbers and to get one drink purchased for you. Yeah.

So that was the challenge.

Let me see what y' all are talking about here. Yes, honey. Girls just want to have fun.

Yes, honey. Do it for the plot, girl. That's what it's all about.

Base beauty, said lord, the church elders.

Well, here's the thing, honey. You're in this chat because you want to get a guy. You want to be in a relationship. You don't want to be an usher for the rest of your life.

Not on the Lords, not on the Lord's day. Not on the Lord's day, right?

Should I vogue my cross?

Should I vogue my cross? Girl.

Straight to hell, honey. I'm going straight there. Gay there. Girl, I'm going gay there, not straight there.

Oh, Lord, Lord, Lord, Lord, Lord, give me the strength. Honey, are y' all clocking this tea?

Okay, Someone said what's. What's your podcast? It's called get your guy coaching podcast. Search it on Apple or Spotify right now and subscribe.

Someone said, I can't even get one number, girl. That's why I gave y' all the blueprint on Friday's Live. I'm going to put it in the podcast so you guys have that blueprint I literally gave you. From the time that you step into the place to the time that you leave, I really gave away all my shit. I gave some of the shit that I gave to my. My clients that pay me multiple thousands of dollars. I gave to y' all for free because that's the mood that I was in. I was letting y' all have it. Honey. Tanya said your kids are going to think you're iconic. Yeah, it's really funny because, you know, they just think of, you know, me as the person that cooks dinner and picks them up from school sometimes. And then when we're out and about, like, when we're in America and we're traveling and they have all these amazing black women come up to me and say, oh, my God, thank you so much. You helped me get a man. They're, like, gagged. They are gagged. So it's true. Well, I think they. They don't know how. How, quote, unquote, iconic I can be.

Stay with Chan. Said they're gonna say my dad was crazy, and we love it. Yeah, they don't get this side, honey. They get the responsible side. I get to be messy with y' all because you all make me feel at home and comfortable and safe. Krista said you were on one.

I was on one two and three, girl.

What was that song? One, two, three, four, get your woman on the floor.

All right.

Just here said, I depend on YouTube heavily. Your girl beyond date. I know that's right, girl.

Just Sharon said, I'm surprised your mama didn't come and get you. I know. I think she was tired that night and didn't get to see my life. And I'm glad that she didn't, girl, cuz she would have whooped me. That's how bad it was.

For sure. Whooped, Whooped.

Queenie said, let me just wait for this podcast because I need the tea. So this podcast episode is going to come out on Wednesdays, honey, when wetness day.

Yeah.

Justine said, is there a man in the army? No, girl.

No, girl, I know that most of the military in the army is gay, but no, he's not. He's a teacher.

Elizabeth said, I went to a Mexican restaurant, but the men were wampum matter. Girl, you, you had a challenge, girl.

If the president says gives orders for the special forces to do what they need to do, they do it. Now, I'm not saying I'm the president, but y' all are special forces. Y' all need to come come through with this challenge, honey.

Okay, let me see, girl, I lost my place already. Okay, here's what we do here. Ask questions about your dating life, love life, men, relationships, what be what be it? I will answer it. I'm not going to be on here for long, honey, because I still have work to do. Honey's busy, girl. Every day there are clients getting into relationships right now in my program. So if you want to be one of them, definitely book a call. We'll see if it's a good fit. But girl, busy. I had a client from the DMV get into a relationship yesterday. I had a client in the Midwest. I got into a relationship today. A couple days ago before that, I had a client in Dallas who got into a relationship. So every week there's at least three, four women in my program that are getting into relationships. And I know I say it like very, like nonchalantly, but to be honest with you, it's a very. It's like a regular occurrence in my program. So it's the expectation more than anything else. So if that is something that's of interest to you over the next year, you want to join my program. Okay. Joe said, that podcast is low key therapy. Well, girl, I would say it's high key, but. But that's just me.

Th said I might have messed up with a Guy. How so, girl?

How so? Ms. Nia. Hey, girl. Hey.

Natalie. I am said, I love the podcast. Thank you, girl. Thank you so much for the support. We really try to tell the tea honey the right one said, what's the assignment for next week? Girl, you're not a client. My clients get homework every week and assignments and challenges every week. This is what it looks like to be in my program. Yeah. So Stephanie said, just follow the podcast. Awesome. Thank you so much, girl. Appreciate it.

Uche said, forgive me, Amar, you're not forgiven. I barely left the house. Why? Girl, it's not March 2020. Covid is not going to get you, girl. I'm going to try again next weekend. Okay, that's better. Ms. Nia said you were very generous. I try, girl. I try my best. Tony said, she has a date. I know. That's right, girl.

Eloquent. Thank you so much for the four roses.

Let me see what y' all are talking about. Ms. Nia, thank you so much for the six cloud breads.

Kiana said, what's the best way to find men in New York City? The funny thing is about NYC is that you just have to go outside. They'll find you. All you have to do is, you know, I life smile.

H said T sis, you messy. Am I? Am I messy, y'? All? Or am I very much in order?

Queen said, girl, the men he speaks of, they are out there. I am a testimony. I was single for eight years, then bam. Get it, girl. China said just followed the podcast. Thank you, girl. Tori and Queen said, a time was had Friday. It truly was. Now, y' all let me know. Should I post it on YouTube? Should I post some of it on Tik Tok and ig? Let me know, y'. All. Should I do it? Because I don't know, I just feel like sometimes I gotta be professional and I just don't know.

You know?

Now if the guys are approaching you and they're rude, you don't need to tell them about themselves. You. You need to. You need to give them mother disappointment. Oh, I thought that you were going to be a gentleman, but I'm not feeling safe anymore. And then you just turn your back. Just turn your back.

Okay, let me see.

Someone said, what's the name of the podcast again? It's called get your guy coaching podcast. Okay.

Okay. Y' all told me I have to post this thing, so I guess I will. I will tell my assistant tomorrow morning to post it now. I hope I don't get a lot of on YouTube because the girls on YouTube like to come for me.

Okay. SK said, I did my part, got my drink and two numbers. Yeah. The reason why I'm asking you all to do this, because I need you to understand how easy it is and the fact, like, if you literally do this every week, you will have a boyfriend in two to three months.

It's actually much more. It's easier than you think, and it's more fun.

So that's why I've asked you to do this. Yannick Said, how do we feel about short men? Well, I want. I need to let you know something, y'. All.

The short men are packing. Yannick.

You need to get with a short king. I think y' all think that 5, 8 is short. Girl, that's the average height of a man.

Try him, girl. Try him. Try the ride. See how it goes.

Sophia Said just discovered you a few weeks ago in your podcast episode on the Mother Wounds. Changed my life. Thank you. You're so welcome, girl. We got to do this work, but we also get to have fun in the meantime. Yeah. Here's what I know. I know that you are going to have to break your own heart.

And once you do that, you will hurt. And once you hurt, you will heal. And once you heal, you will allow yourself to love yourself. And once you learn your love yourself, you will learn yourself. And once you're able to learn yourself, you will be able to share that and teach that to other people.

So there are podcast episodes where we break your heart and allow you to do so, because just like in my program, because we know that that is the first step on your road to getting your person.

Okay.

Someone said six, four, and up.

Don't be fooled by height, honey.

Those six. So six, four boys, they're not really killing it the way that you think. Unless they're scary.

Oh, my God. EJ Mode said, Do not post it. Post all of it on IG or YouTube. Okay.

Azoral said, think of all the children that could be born because of that. Live. Yeah, girl. You know there's a special on Netflix about this guy or a show that's like, you know, he has, like, a thousand children out there. Girl, I might do the same thing based on this advice.

Oh, my God. Okay. Michelle said don't post it.

So it was okay. Edit the clicks out. Okay, Got it, got it, got it, got it, got it, got it. Yeah. That's T. That's T, y'. All. That's T. Don't post the clicks. That's right. That's Right. That's right. That's what I think is the T.

Loyalty said. Post it, but edit the tea part out. Okay, I will. I will. Y' all really trying to protect me, and I appreciate that.

I really do appreciate that. Y' all really looking out for me.

Okay, let me see. Let me see what y' all are asking over here. Let me scroll up. How to talk to a coworker. I like.

Let them come to you, girl.

Let them come to you. Don't try to make a co worker situation happen.

What will happen is that that person, if that person starts asking you, hey, do you want to have lunch? Then they're interested. Okay.

But don't try to make it happen.

Yeah, post like, 10 second clips of different episodes at the end of the year. Okay, I might do that. I might do some of that. I might put some of it in the podcast, I think.

Okay. Okay. Y'. All. Y' all got me together, girl. I'm gonna post it, but I'm gonna take the part out. That was a bit risque.

M Pop said, Friday, you loaded the pew pew and emptied it.

Okay. Sincerely said, I love how you teach. Thank you, girl. Okay, let me see what the questions are.

The gold said, why are men so intimidated by women that have themselves together? Well, men want to take care of you, and if they can't take care of you, if they can't provide for you, then they feel like they don't have any value as a man.

So I don't think it's. I don't think that they're. I think that they feel.

Like, competitive.

Not necessarily intimidated.

There's a difference. Yeah. Now, some men will feel threatened and try to humble you and make you small. Right. But that's why you have to make sure that your boundaries are way up.

R said, should I be going out alone? Yeah, go out alone, girl.

Like, if you're at a bar, go out alone. The only places that I would say don't go out alone are sporting events, sport bars.

Trying to think if there are other places where you shouldn't go out alone.

That's mainly it. Maybe like a salsa bar or something. You'll. You want to, like, be able to do your thing. Go back to a friend. Do your thing. Go back to a friend.

Okay, let me see what questions you have.

Chef Spark said, went to a Missy Elliott concert by myself last night. Got a number while I was jamming. I know that's.

Mocha Said, my boyfriend won't marry me if he hasn't engaged within two years. It's probably, he's, he's probably not into it. Don't be one of these women that is with a guy for five and six years and doesn't have a ring. Because if you don't have a ring, if you, you're not married, if you haven't gone through the wedding, you are a placeholder.

And I'm sorry to be very harsh about it, but I want to be really clear so that you, it can wake you up if you find yourself in this situation. Now I'm talking to women that are 25 and older. If you're 22, girl.

Girl, he barely got his degree. Hopefully he not ready for it. But if you're 35 and you've been with a guy since you were 30, this is prime years, prime, prime real estate. That's why I say two years. I get people into relationships at least three women every week. I know what it looks like. I know a lot of people are like, oh my God, two years is so soon. When a guy knows, he knows, he does not.