Dating Q & A 08-03-24

Sam.

Hello. Hello. Hello.

Hello, hello, hello. Welcome, welcome, welcome.

Hello, ladies.

I hope you're doing well.

Let me know if you can hear me now. For those that don't know me, my name is Coach Anwar. I am a dating coach for black and brown women. And I am here to.

Spill. Spill some tea that you know what the what the what the what the tea is, honey. Yeah.

So for those of you that haven't been on my life before, please understand that.

Here'S where we get to talk about men, dating, relationships, love, women. Girl, I don't really care. And I'm gonna give you the tea. Straight, no chaser. Okay? I haven't been on here in a while, so I think tech talk forgot about me.

Someone said, girl, is the other account yours as well? I have about 10 imposter accounts that are just trying to catch my swag. So here's the thing. They're gonna ask you for money.

For reading. Please understand, I read the girls every day on this app, so you will never hear me ask for money. That's poor. I'm not poor.

Don't ask. Don't follow other accounts. If the account doesn't have 670,000 followers, then it's not me. It's someone that wants your money. I don't want her money, okay? I want to help you. There's a difference.

So, yeah, with that said.

Yes, honey, she said that rich laugh. Honey, girl, you can't. You can't buy this laugh. These girls. Here's the thing. I have been going back and forth with TikTok about verifying me for the past four or five months. And once I get verified, all of those other accounts will be chopped. But until then, honey, just follow me, okay? Let me see what the girls are talking about.

Okay. Hey, no name. Hey, Al. Hey, Elizabeth. Good morning. Hey, Rochelle. Hey, Ativia. Hey. Hey, Akule. Hey, Namira. Happy Saturday to you all. Hello, Latri. It's good to see you. Hey, do from Germany. I know. That's right, girl. Get your German man. Honey.

May said, not you reading the girls every day? That's right, girl. I have to. The girls say they love me because I read to them. But I read to them like a nighttime story, girl. Not harsh, girl. It's a melodic tone, real soft.

J said, girl, I love you, girl, I love you too. But I also am married, so you can't have me. Ayan Said, Hi. Hey, girl. Is your name Arab? I guess so.

Makia said, should grown women reveal their real age to these men? My mom always Told me, never tell a man. Okay, so here's the tea. Here's what I would say. Always be honest and truthful. But here's the gag. If you are over 50 years old and you're on an app, put your age as 49. Because if you're 50 plus, these apps will only show you 60, 70 year old men. But if you're 49, they'll give you a good mix of 40 and 50 year olds. Okay? And tell the people immediately.

Yeah, I've been away for a while because I have been.

On vacay and tick tock doesn't like that. So they don't really show my ish. They don't like that I haven't been giving them their views and attention that they want from me. But that's okay. I'm gonna come back next week and gag y' all like I usually do. Honey.

Mace said, I love your name. What does that mean? I think it means sun or star. And leader. I think it means like bright, bright leader.

Sincerely, Ashanti said best friend. Hey, girl. Dania. Hey, girl. Gail, the creator, greetings to you. Hey, Ms. Pie. Hey. JJ Jean said, Amwar missed you. Missed you too, girl. The creator, thank you so much for the community fest. Someone said, are you watching the Olympics? Well, you know what? You know what Olympic event I'm watching? Men's track and field. And you know why? And I'm not afraid to admit it, honey, because the girls gotta eat. Catch that tea. Y' all better be watching it too, because I know all the celibate and abstinent girls out there. That's the closest thing you're gonna get to something in a wild girl. So, honey, you better enjoy that event and. And work that slow, mo hon.

Hey, Cece. Girl. Hey, Dania. Thanks so much for the Three roses. Rick said my med school crush, white man confessed. He's had a crush on me for two years. What's next? Let that man marry you. Let him court you, kind of get married. Have some. Have some beautiful med school babies and keep it. Keep it moving. You're. You're literally living Grey's Anatomy for us, girl. Get into it. What do you mean, what's next? Get into it. And the gag is, girl, send me a picture of him via dm. Just so I know, girl, because you know I want you to be with someone fine, too. No shade. Okay, last one. Said, do you know if Little Rock is okay dating scene? Everything is an okay dating scene. Except for Atlanta and Houston and LA and Phoenix. Every other place Y' all be able to get your man in six to nine months if you're in my program. Okay? So just FYI, if you want to learn more about what I do, you can go into my. The link in my bio. I have a link for my podcast. I have a link to book a call with me if you want to work with me professionally. I also have a link for free dating advice, videos, things of that nature. So definitely check that out. Also, if there's anything that I say on here that resonates with you, definitely click or tap, double tap, triple tap the screen. Let's get these likes up. Because no shade, but 2000 likes is.

Not for me. It's for the newbies. Girl.

Okay, you know, I'm just talking ish, girl. Because it's a Saturday morning and we get to do what we want, honey. I'm just happy that I don't have to clean the house with my mom a Saturday morning anymore, girl. That I'm grown. And I hope y' all are grown, too. Catch that tea. Okay.

Nakira said, can you drop more married content? We got the man now. Now what?

Here's what I know.

When you're married, you still gotta date. And some of the girls get into a rut real fast because they're bored. And they're bored because there's no drama. And, girl, the gag is that you are going to have to be with someone that you can make a thousand decision with on an everyday basis. And a lot of people think that just because I'm in a relationship or just that just because I'm married, like that, like, the work stops. No, girl, that's when it really starts. That's the gag. When I get. I get at least three or four women into relationships each week, and I get a woman engaged every month. Girl, this is when the work starts.

CJ4 said, hi, Godbrother. Are we allowing potential in 2024?

I don't even know what that word means.

These men got. They gotta come build. Girl, we can't build men. And we can't wait for them to be something that they may not ever be. We have to honor and respect, affect how these men are showing up. Now you can't, because here's the thing, girl. You might be talking to a guy that's 500 pounds and he's saying, I'm gonna lose weight, but he's not doing anything now to do it. That would be like, you know, that's potential. And that's gonna get you screwed up each and every Time. But you said you are the original recipe. You can never be duplicated. Love you always. Thank you so much, girl. I appreciate it. Okay. I am lovely. Said, what do you think about men who use only fans in relationship? What does that mean?

Because there are men that are on only fans and have these pretend, like, you know, parasocial relationships, they really think that they're in a relationship with these only fan girls. Just like some of these guys that go to strip clubs. They literally fall in love with the club and they think that they want to marry this girl. So what do you mean exactly?

Sincere Said girl said, is it okay to ask a man what his intentions are? No. No. Because his answer doesn't matter. And when you ask that question, you lose all your power.

You know that movie Gone Girl, that's what I. That's what I call those girls. Girl, you're already gone. You already lost your power. Why do I say that? I say that because it doesn't matter what his intentions are. It matters what he does, and it matters what you want. And you have to be evaluating these men. You can't. Like, when you're asking what his intentions are, you're giving him all the power, and you're saying, I'm waiting for you to dictate what we should do in this relationship. No, girl, it's 2024. And you get to share with him what you want to do in the relationship, because that's the thing that matters. As a woman, you set the pace and the emotional depth of all of your relationships. And if you're not doing this, then you're not doing your relationships well. Yeah. Okay. Triple bubble Said, what would you do if your boyfriend didn't respond to your text in 3 days?

Get a new one.

Get a new one. That's silent treatment, T. Girl, That's. That's narcissistic, and that's toxic. People.